In the same unit, or in the same office, it is very important to have a good relationship with colleagues. A harmonious relationship will bring you a good mood, which is not only conducive to doing a good job, but also to your physical and mental health. If the relationship is not harmonious, or even a little tense, it will be boring. In addition to the contradictions on major issues and direct conflicts of interest, the reasons for the lack of harmonious relations between colleagues are also a reason for not paying attention to the details of their words and deeds.
If there is something good, don’t report to the unit to distribute items, receive bonuses, etc., you know first, or you have already received it, sit there silently, as if nothing is wrong, and never inform everyone, some things can be collected on your behalf Yes, and never help anyone get it. After a few times like this, others will naturally have ideas and feel that you are too out of place, lacking common awareness and collaborative spirit. In the future, if they know in advance, or if they have something in advance, they may not tell you. If this goes on, the relationship between them will not be harmonious.
Knowingly and arguing that you don’t know that your colleague is on a business trip, or going out for a while, someone happens to come to him, or just calls to find him. If your colleague didn’t tell you when he left, but you know, you might as well tell them; if you really don’t know. , you might as well ask others, and then tell them to show their enthusiasm. You clearly know, but you directly say that you don’t know, once you are known, your relationship with each other is bound to be affected. When outsiders look for colleagues, no matter what the situation is, you must be sincere and enthusiastic. In this way, even if it does not play a practical role, outsiders will feel that your colleagues have a good relationship.
Don’t tell each other that you have something to go out for a while, or ask for leave from work. Although it is the leader who approves the leave, you’d better talk to your colleagues in the office. Say hi to a colleague even if you’re temporarily out for half an hour. In this way, if leaders or acquaintances come to look for them, they can also let colleagues have an explanation. If you don’t want to say anything, go in and out mysteriously, and sometimes there is something important, people can’t say it, and sometimes you don’t bother to say it, and it’s probably yourself who will be affected. Informing each other is not only a need for joint work, but also a need for emotional connection. It shows the mutual respect and trust that both parties have.
Don’t talk about the private things that can be said, some private things can’t be said, but there is no harm in talking about some private things. For example, your boyfriend or girlfriend’s work unit, education, age and temperament; if you are married and have children, you will also have topics about your lover and children. After work, you can chat by the way, it can enhance understanding and deepen feelings. If these contents are kept secret and never told to others, how can this be regarded as a colleague? Saying nothing, usually shows the depth of affection; not saying anything, naturally shows the alienation of interpersonal distance. If you take the initiative to talk to others about private matters, others will also talk to you, and sometimes you can help each other out. You don’t say anything, and you don’t let anyone know. How can people trust you? Trust is based on mutual understanding.
It is right to refuse to ask colleagues for help when something happens. Because asking for help always brings trouble to others. But everything is dialectical, and sometimes asking for help can show your trust in others, build rapport, and deepen your relationship. For example, if you are in poor health, your colleague’s lover is a doctor you don’t know, but you can find it through the introduction of your colleague, so that the diagnosis can be made faster and more detailed. If you are unwilling to ask for help, your colleagues will find out, and they will feel that you do not trust them. If you are unwilling to ask others, they will be embarrassed to ask you; if you are afraid of trouble, they will think that you are also afraid of trouble. Good interpersonal relationships are premised on helping each other. Therefore, it is generally possible to ask for help from others. Of course, you must pay attention to your sense of proportion and try not to embarrass others.
Refuse the “snacks” of colleagues. Colleagues bring some snacks such as fruit, melon seeds, and sugar to the office, and eat them during breaks. Sometimes, some of your colleagues have won an award or a professional title. Everyone is happy and asks him to buy something for a treat. This is also normal. You can actively participate in this. You don’t want to sit beside you without saying a word, let alone be given it to you, but you refuse, showing a disdainful or uncommon demeanor. People give it warmly, but you often refuse it coldly. After a long time, people have reasons to say that you are arrogant and arrogant, and think you are difficult to get along with.
There are several people in the same office who often “bite your ears” with one person. You should try to maintain a balance with each of them, and try to be in a state of being inseparable all the time. That is to say, don’t be particularly close or distant to any one of them. In peacetime, don’t always whisper to the same person, and don’t always go in and out with the same person. Otherwise, the two of you may be close, but more distant. Some people thought you were running small groups. If you are constantly “biting your ears” with the same person, and others come in and don’t talk, then others will inevitably have the idea that you are talking bad about others.
People who are keen to listen to what they can say about family affairs will say it themselves, and if they can’t say it, don’t dig it. Everyone has their own secrets. Sometimes, people accidentally leak out the secrets in their hearts. For this, don’t go to inquire, don’t want to ask the truth. Some people are keen on snooping, they want to understand everything clearly, and they want to understand everything. Such people will be looked down upon by others. You like to snoop, even if there is no purpose, people will hate you for three points. In a sense, it is an immoral act to love to snoop on people’s private affairs.
Like to take advantage of mouth In getting along with colleagues, some people always want to take advantage of mouth. Some people like to tell other people’s jokes and get others to take advantage of them. Even if it is a joke, they will never end up with their own losses; some people like to argue, they have to argue for reasons, but they also fight for three points if they are not. Some people don’t care about national affairs. , or a trivial matter in daily life. When you see a flaw in the other party, you will hold on to it, and you must let the other party lose. Some people also want to find out about the problems that are not clear in the first place; some people Often take the initiative to attack, others do not talk about him, he always talks about others first.
