Divorce is one of the most serious and complex mental health crises that threaten children. Many children have not eliminated their psychological creations 5 years after their parents divorced, feeling depressed, depressed, strange and withdrawn. Divorce is one of the most serious and complex mental health crises threatening children, according to Albert Solnit, director of the Yale University Children’s Research Center.
Quite a number of psychologists believe that the death of a family member is more painful and manipulative for children than parental divorce. Some marriage psychologists in the United States have conducted long-term research on the psychological impact of parental divorce on children. Among the children of the surveyed divorced families, 37% of the children have not disappeared 5 years after their parents divorced, and their emotional creation has not disappeared. Decline, the character becomes lonely, their strongest desire After the parents divorce, the child lives in a family with insufficient family or remarried, usually cannot get the normal love of the father and the love of the mother, and all aspects of life are seriously affected, Parental divorce has a great psychological impact on children.
Studies have shown that children of parents who live in lack of families and remarriage families after divorce are more likely to have psychological problems such as personality variations, psychological disorders and mental illnesses than children from healthy and normal families.
Childhood is a period of personality formation and development, which has great plasticity. In the process of the child’s character formation and development, parents have a great influence, which can be said to be lifelong. The love of a father and the love of a mother cannot be replaced, nor can they be replaced. It is often said that parents are the first teachers of their children. Parents are psychologically compatible, get along well, and give their children more care, love and help, which can easily bring good character quality to their children. Parents divorce usually because of emotional incompatibility, psychological incompatibility, and unresolved conflicts. Divorce itself is not bad, but the result of divorce often brings trouble to the child, changes the character of the child, and shows many bad character traits. Especially in this case, it is not conducive to the healthy development of children’s character:
- The parents continued to quarrel after the divorce. When a considerable number of couples divorce, instead of reconciling, they break up amicably, but they are noisy and unable to communicate. After the divorce, the parties continued to fight over property, alimony and children’s education. In such an environment, the character of the child is often distorted.
- Parents defamation and revenge on each other after divorce. After divorce, some couples often have a strong sense of revenge, slander each other in front of their children, do not allow children to contact each other, and cannot call their parents. Find out that the child is in contact with each other, accuse each other, and punish the child. It should be said that the most hurt is the child, he (she) not only lost the love of the father and the love of the mother, but also the poor love that can be obtained is often distorted.
- Parents complain about their children after divorce. Often scolded and abused, how can a child form a good character in such a living atmosphere? Fourth, after the parents divorced, both parties refused to raise children. After divorce, some couples see their children as obstacles and mixed stepping stones to remarriage, and want to push the children to each other, while some have nothing to do with the children, making the children feel abandoned and orphans with parents. Such children are most likely to have bad qualities. Of course, there are exceptions. In other words, parental divorce does not have much adverse effect on the child’s character development.
In life, some couples can get along amicably even after divorce. He (she) speaks ill of each other, slanders and is ugly in front of the child, and affirms each other, so that the child believes that the parents are good people and that he (she) does not cut off the child. Contact with each other, but actively encourage children to contact each other. For children, it is only a change in their lifestyle, and they are not psychologically impacted and hurt, which is beneficial to the child’s character development. Therefore, parents who must break up must be kind to each other and their children when they must choose the path of divorce.
