Intimacy is the foundation of a happy marriage. The two key points of the marriage defense battle are how to maintain intimacy and expel intimacy killers. What is the typical intimate killer? How should it be avoided?
Intimate Killer 1: Liar. When they know that their partner’s attitude towards something is different from their own, some people think that honesty will only lead to quarrels, and choose the method of finding reasons and excuses to avoid differences and avoid problems. In the end, it is often to lie, and with ten lies, the problem snowballs. However, the paper package did not catch fire, and it became more difficult to understand that all the problems had to be faced again when the partner came on. Therefore, couples should be as honest as possible. When facing differences, they should explain their reasons, emphasize good intentions, and express their actions for the consideration of family members, so that the other party can understand and understand.
Intimate killer two: technology products. The rapid development of science and technology has changed people’s way of life. Many people rely too much on technology products, which seriously affects the relationship between husband and wife. Mobile phones, tablet computers, and online games have become the most common third parties, occupying people’s spare time and not conducive to communication. In order to solve this problem, couples can stay away from scientific and technological products for a certain period of time through discussions, go to movies and parks together, and maintain the sweetness of marriage.
Intimate killer three: Disobedient. Gender-wise, men and women have different attitudes towards problems. Husbands often take on the responsibility of providing for the family. When faced with problems, they usually think about how to solve the problem, and only focus on the key points. When a wife faces a problem, she tends to express herself, wants to hear, and needs an audience. In urban life, where the pace of life is fast and the pressure is high, listening between husband and wife is particularly important, which not only helps to eliminate troubles, but also helps maintain the relationship between husband and wife. Husband and wife should consider the problem from each other’s point of view. If the husband is busy with work, it is best for the wife not to force her husband to interrupt. A husband knows his wife has something to say, so he should listen patiently and be at ease for her.
Intimate Killer Four: Separation. The husband and wife have been separated for a long time. If they do not pay attention to communication, the relationship will become weak. Over time, the marriage relationship will be submerged in dullness, causing emotional crisis. Try to avoid separation, and if it is unavoidable, strengthen communication through various methods, not only through phone calls, but also through online video, to visually and audibly feel each other’s presence and love.
Intimate killer five: self-centered. The only child has lived in the love of the elders since he was a child, and has been under the single competition relationship of the school for a long time. Husbands and wives should pay attention to and understand each other, cultivate common life hobbies, such as self-help travel, reading, etc., two people can share experience and experience, and rekindle the spark of love.
Intimate killer six: fierce quarrel. When the husband and wife have serious differences on the issue, fierce quarrels, personal attacks, and even physical conflicts are prone to occur, and the intimacy of the husband and wife relationship has a destructive blow. When you find that the other party’s voice is getting louder and you are excited, you should keep calm, separate quickly, achieve spatial isolation, and sit down and talk after 1 or 2 hours. At the same time, three principles must be followed: 1. Accept the opinions of the other party and change their minds; 2. Express their own ideas and let the other party understand;
Intimate Killer Seven: Lack of Contact. Life pressure is high, the time between husband and wife is getting shorter and shorter, and the contact is reduced, which is easy to induce skin hunger and thirst. Modern science has found that the skin is in a state of hunger and thirst, and the mind is prone to loneliness. There is a lack of skin-to-skin contact between husband and wife, and for a long time, the husband has been indifferent to his wife, and the wife has an impulsive personality. Therefore, couples should attach importance to sex life and caress each other.
