As the saying goes: “many years of daughter-in-law boil into a woman”, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, is a headache, handle well will make your marriage life more happy and stable;
If you don’t do it right, you’re setting a time bomb on your marriage.
What is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the new countryside?
Young daughters-in-law have knowledge and education, and economic independence gives them more autonomy. So, a mother-in-law sighs, “Life is not easy now!”
Under the same eaves, there is nothing that can not pass the CANn, the man’s life love two women: one is to give birth to their own mother, one is to marry home to be a wife.
For the mother-in-law, love the son will love the daughter-in-law;
Similarly, a daughter-in-law who loves her husband loves her mother-in-law.
Do a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a win-win situation, why not?
Liu Jinqiang: As the saying goes, “Three women make a play”.
In the countryside, once a son marries a wife, there are more than two women in the family — a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law.
As a woman has more leisure time, a lot of trouble arises.
In domestic affairs, too much democracy can only lead to chaos.
Men are not good at internal affairs, women do not let go, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may become the head of the court, but a mountain can not tolerate two tigers, if the man is not good at mediation or weak, often have a strong mother and a strong daughter-in-law.
Encounter contradiction, he will only shrink, let mother-in-law and daughter-in-law complete the “peak duel”, the consequences can be imagined.
Many marriage researchers believe that after adulthood, the husband and wife should be the core of the family, and the core members should have more power to decide, with full respect for other family members.
From this point of view, the role played by the man is unusual, he must not become an accomplice to the strained relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
So, in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how not to make the conflicting parties because of tension and feel unbearable?
According to personal experience, I think men in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as long as the wife use both hot and cold methods.
Cold, is to her mother-in-law’s private life to take a cold look on, calm thinking attitude.
First, let’s not interfere with the life our mothers-in-law are used to.
For example, we do not want to complain because the mother-in-law herself around scenery but do not help us in dire straits a little busy, that is someone else how many years of hard work for a little old age time, what are our eyes hot?
We DON’T BECAUSE THE MOTHER-IN-LAW COMES TO their thousands of picky picky and depressed not happy, that is someone else when the mouth of the elder, she does not say you who say you?
If, whenever we meet with the mother-in-law has a contradiction, first cold down, think about the above a few words, I think this contradiction should also be solved half of it.
Heat is the care of the mother-in-law to be like the summer heat, the enthusiasm, the enthusiasm directly transferred to the heart of the mother-in-law.
For example, when my mother-in-law is sick, even if it is just a minor illness of headache and fever, no matter how hard it is to put the boiled water on first, and then ask questions and make appropriate medicine;
Meet her mother-in-law’s birthday, there is a happy event at home, first prepare a set of gratified clothes for her mother-in-law, then say congratulations;
When her mother-in-law cares about her grandson, she modestly accepts her mother-in-law’s teachings, “take the essence and discard the dross”.
In short, a lot of puzzling things often happen between women, there is no irreconcilable contradiction between them, the key is how to deal with.
That’s how I lived my life between two women who loved me and I loved them.
Although some trivial, but for the plain day added a lot of fun.
Again, we’re men, and men are supposed to tolerate this.
${FDPageBreak} Distance makes the “bad” woman “pretty” daughter-in-law beautiful: The Lunar New Year’s Eve, should be a festive time of lights, but in a rural family.
Her daughter-in-law, Xiao Fang, took a bottle of pesticide in her hand, crying and making, any five or six people pulled, just to pour into her mouth;
Another litigant mother-in-law lip hair blue, scold daughter-in-law play pour, anger get the whites of the eyes on the roll, heart attack, another one of the villagers hurriedly Zhang Luo to the hospital to send……
And this relationship has been tense mother-in-law and daughter-in-law two people, this fuse, nothing more than is also the mother-in-law in front of her daughter-in-law scolded out of work son impolite, small Fang think mother-in-law “innuendo” her.
In the end, the mother-in-law told her son to get a divorce.
In this “life and death” leisurely close on the juncture, the family after a few rounds of consultation, small Fang threw the big son to the mother-in-law, with less than 2 years old son set foot on the journey to work.
As the saying goes, “Beauty comes from distance.”
Once in a fresh environment, small fang in addition to carefully take care of her husband’s diet daily life, there is a idle, he remembered thousands of miles away “big” the son, and time to make a long distance to ask this ask which, in the long run, from her mother-in-law generation on the phone a few times after contact, old woman daughter-in-law relation gradually have the breath of a little bit of “spring”.
In particular, it is said that the eldest son was hospitalized because of acute pneumonia, and the grandson’s mother-in-law did not sleep for three days and four nights.
Small FANG FOR THE FIRST TIME TO THE RECEIVER, VOICE CHOKED: “NIANG, YOU OLD ALSO WANT TO NOTICE HIS BODY, DON’T tired OUT DISEASE.
When we earn money, we will be good to you.”
Always WITH HALE AND HEARTY THE MOTHER-IN-LAW VOICE ALSO ESPECIALLY KIND: “FANG, AS LONG AS YOU TWO GO IN PEACE OUTSIDE, MONEY NOT MONEY is a small matter.”
This is where the “bad” woman “pretty” daughter-in-law relationship ah!
The CHANGE DURING THIS, JUST BECAUSE, SMALL FANG GOES SOUTH TO WORK WITH THE HUSBAND, THE DISTANCE PRODUCED HUGE OF MOTHER-IN-LAW AND DAUGHTER-IN-LAW “BEAUTIFUL”!
Such, imperceptibly in, the relation of small Fang and mother-in-law produced fundamental change.
Not only in the past few years of the Spring Festival “program” did not repeat, and small Fang touched the pot, her mother-in-law said with a smile: “come home these days, have a good rest.”
Small FANG SIGNAL HUSBAND TOUCH A PILE OF MONEY TO PASS MOTHER-IN-LAW, WHO KNOWS MOTHER-IN-LAW PUSHED BACK AGAIN: “I AM not OLD NOW, CAN’T USE SO MUCH MONEY.
This is your hard-earned money. Save it for future use!”
All these, all because, daughter-in-law goes out to “work”, space and time melted all the unhappy between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, tell you, this is a new model to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
“To think well, the old respect small” Zhao Zhiyan:
Don’t know since when, rural popular the phrase “to be good, old and small,” said is when her mother-in-law to peace must “worship” daughter-in-law in the home, perhaps is the first person to talk like this with anger, deliberately “bury” the daughter-in-law now, but it seems unreasonable words, pondering the truth, especially that “respect” the word is very subtle.
