How can women “attack” when they meet a man they like?
Don’t be coy, as men often don’t do it, US researchers suggest.
The best thing to do is to be direct and don’t give them anything vague.
Researchers at Bucknell University in Pennsylvania found that the most popular way men pick up women is to be concise, get to the point and avoid pointless twists and turns.
Researchers asked a group of female volunteers to provide their pick-up lines and pick out the 50 most common answers. Seventy male subjects then rated the effectiveness of the lines.
The study was published in the British journal Personality and Individual Differences.
Men found it difficult to read suggestive statements, even when women made suggestive gestures while speaking, the report said.
Instead of going out of their way to make explicit cues, the researchers suggest that women simply ask their partner out to dinner or a movie.
For men, simple statements that are clear, direct and unambiguous are most appealing, such as “Dinner tonight” or “Can I give you my number?”
Such statements.
Indirect invitations, such as “What are you doing later?” and “What are you doing tonight?” came in third.
The report also warns that if a woman asks directly “your house or mine”, a man may refuse.
The women in the experiment also thought that a direct date invitation that interested both partners worked.
Surprisingly, women’s supposedly humorous opening lines had little effect.
If she says “Your shirt matches my sheets” or “it’s dangerous for you to stand there because I may not be able to control my impulses,” the man may not buy it.
At the bottom of the list is the opening line with a smile: “You look familiar.
Have I seen you before?”
Joel Wade, a professor of psychology at Bucknell University, said that “asking men out on a date directly or indirectly sends a clear signal, rather than asking them to ‘decipher’ vague, nonverbal messages,” while a direct offer eliminates “the uncertainty of the relationship.”
If a woman is looking for a long-term, committed relationship, she should think twice before handing out her phone number to a man she doesn’t know, Wade suggests, because he might think she’s just having fun and isn’t looking for a serious relationship.
Interestingly, if a man wants to start a conversation with a woman, it’s best to start with a conversation about the weather.
A previous study found that men who wanted to show off their intelligence and athletic prowess could tell women ‘Is it hot today?
This is the best day to train for a marathon.
However, a man who says, “Can I put the keys to my Mercedes in your bag?” is likely to be kicked out.
A 2007 study by the University of Edinburgh found that men’s conversation lines fall into four categories: humor, flirtation, unapologetic flattery and “acid” that pretends to be meaningful.
Women with different personalities prefer different pick-up lines.
Extroverted women were more likely to prefer the humorous, fun-loving type, while those with a more stubborn personality preferred the ‘nice guy’ type.
According to this, men who are kind or funny are always in demand.
