A growing body of research is drawing attention to the pervasive yet often overlooked issue of emotional neglect in marriages. Unlike overt conflict or abuse, emotional neglect is characterized by a lack of responsiveness, attentiveness, and engagement between partners, leading to profound feelings of loneliness and disconnection. A recent study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy found that nearly 35% of married individuals report experiencing emotional neglect, with significant consequences for their mental health.
Dr. Sarah Jennings, a clinical psychologist specializing in relational trauma, explains that emotional neglect often stems from unmet emotional needs. “Many couples fall into patterns where they coexist rather than connect,” she says. “One or both partners may feel invisible, unheard, or unimportant, even if there’s no overt hostility.” The study revealed that neglected partners are at higher risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, with many describing their marriages as “empty” or “lonely.”
The rise of emotional neglect is being linked to modern lifestyle pressures, including demanding work schedules, parenting responsibilities, and digital distractions. Couples report spending less quality time together, with conversations often reduced to logistical coordination rather than emotional sharing. “We became like roommates who occasionally talk about bills and kids,” shared one study participant. “I didn’t realize how starved I was for real connection until I started therapy.”
Therapists are now advocating for “emotional check-ins” as a way to combat neglect. These structured conversations, where partners openly discuss their feelings and needs, can help rebuild intimacy. Additionally, mindfulness practices and couples retreats are gaining popularity as tools to rekindle emotional engagement. Experts emphasize that addressing emotional neglect early is crucial, as prolonged disconnection can lead to irreversible relational damage.
