There are six things that fathers must do when their children grow up. In order for their children to have the ability to be fair, parents must be able to maintain a fair state of getting along with their children, neither forcing them nor accommodating them. 1 Relaxing human intelligence and energy is amazing, but people are too much self-constrained, self-troubled, and self-contradictory, so most people are not only incompetent but also troubled. Among the many factors that hinder the realization of human potential, tension should be the more prominent one. When people are in a relaxed state, their minds are open and active, but when they are tense, they are closed and rigid, just like giving a speech on stage. Many times, we are still too easily nervous, because we have developed the habit of being nervous from a very early age, whenever we face challenges, dangers and uncertainties, and those who are high in our hearts. , We are always nervous when faced with those important occasions. When I was a child, the nervousness of seeing the teacher is the same as the nervousness of seeing the leader today. The nervousness of walking into the examination room in elementary school is no different from the nervousness of the interview later. These tensions get in the way of our ego. In fact, what is there to be nervous about? As long as we can pay attention to the current affairs instead of the external environment and the impact of the outcome, we will not feel nervous. We are better at this time.
So I don’t want the kids to be nervous. I think the compulsion of violence is one of the important sources of tension in children. Rough threats that make children feel irresistible are things we should take extra care to avoid.
To be happy, one must be happy first. If you can’t even be happy, then there is nothing to talk about. Some people say that sometimes suffering temporarily in order to achieve a certain goal, although not happy, but also very meaningful. In fact, some things endured for a goal are not unhappy, but he is physically a little bitter and emotionally lonely, but his heart is not unhappy, because hope is comforting and beckoning him. The real unhappiness is the complete disappointment with oneself, passive humiliation, and the emptiness and fear that cannot be dispelled inside. No one wants to be unhappy, why are there so many people who have a good life and are still unhappy? In fact, happiness is more often not related to things but to people’s moods. Happiness is not so much a personality, as it is a quality and ability. Happiness requires an open-minded and optimistic attitude and a sufficient sense of security. Don’t worry about bad things, but can quickly recover from grievance and pain, don’t be burdened by the past, don’t worry about the future, live in the present, don’t be burdened by too many desires, and be able to be yourself Accepting and enjoying themselves, how can this be a character, it is just a quality. Therefore, as a parent, you must be kind and loving to your children, so that your children have enough emotional warmth and a sense of belonging; you must be strict but not harsh or vicious when you ask your children.
