This tactic is also very suitable for dealing with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which has puzzled the Chinese people for thousands of years.
However, although the meaning is similar, the literal meaning has to be changed slightly.
First of all, change what you can.
When dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many people tend to go to two extremes.
One is to let the old do what they like.
Second, what all the tube, the old man said what to do what is not satisfactory.
From a methodological point of view, this is certainly not right.
Due to the temporary combination, the lack of communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, easy to produce contradictions is very normal.
For the in-laws who live together, the daughter-in-law can not interfere in everything, nor can she let it go.
Especially for some principled issues, such as the problem of spoiling children, we should bravely adhere to the principle and strive to change the old people’s ideas.
After all, times have changed and old people should keep pace with The Times.
Do not blindly consider the old man’s face and let it go, in the end harm is the child.
Moreover, it will lead to the aggravation of conflicts, which will be out of control in the future.
But change must also be done in a methodical way, that is, we must be firm in our attitude and tactful in our approach, and we must not cause a deadlock because of one thing.
Remember: old people are not students, do not like the younger generation to give their lessons, it is important to follow the trend.
As the saying goes, there are two hardest things in the world.
One is to put the money in other people’s pockets into their own pockets, the second is to put the thoughts in their own heads into other people’s heads.
Therefore, it is not easy to change a person, especially to change a world outlook, outlook on life, values have been stubborn shape of the elderly.
Therefore, for some non-principled issues, such as the way of taking care of children’s life, if it is not easy to change or cannot be changed, then as a younger daughter-in-law, it is necessary to learn to adapt.
In fact, as long as the thought of the close, sometimes suddenly found that the original in accordance with the meaning of the in-laws act is also good, there is nothing wrong.
No one is a saint, and my in-laws certainly have more life experience than young people.
Believe in yourself and your in-laws.
Practice has proved eloquently that only trust can lead to harmony.
Remember: Don’t assume you are always right.
As long as you have this idea, it is actually a false start.
In life, adaptation is the greatest wisdom and ability.
The third sentence, can not adapt to tolerance.
Adaptation is not an easy task, and it has a lot to do with everyone’s ability to adapt.
Some people will adjust their state of mind very well and have a strong ability to adapt to external stimuli.
While some people are more closed, the pursuit of being an independent and complete person, it is difficult to integrate with the outside world.
It is said that different paths do not conspire together.
In the absence of a happy co-existence, tolerance is the only option.
If you don’t want to do it yourself, don’t stop your in-laws from doing it.
If you are afraid that the behavior of your in-laws will affect your mood, you can take a laissez-faire attitude and hide in a place to enjoy leisure.
This will not solve the conflict, but it will reduce the possibility of escalation caused by emotional interaction.
That is, people say, “provoke” can not afford to “hide”!
Remember: to learn to grasp the main contradiction, in life, a family harmony is the most fundamental.
Compared to that, nothing else matters.
Never create conflict for the sake of happiness.
The fourth sentence, can not tolerate to give up.
For those who cannot change, adapt, or tolerate, be careful.
Although all the contradictions can be converted, the cost is too high to be worthwhile.
Since the two sides of the conflict always exist and cannot be eliminated, we should simply separate them and eliminate the battlefield that causes the conflict.
Although it costs a little money to hire a nanny, it is not as good as the care of your family, but it is the right to take the lesser harm, but it can save the family.
In fact, many of the problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not problems of character or values, but the old people suddenly come from the countryside or other cities to a strange place, leaving the original foundation of life, and emotionally unable to adapt to the situation.
After all, people have to live by their minds after meeting their needs for survival and security.
The superiority of life can not dispel the old man’s spiritual loss.
Will TELL TO OLD PEOPLE, EAT AND WEAR ALREADY NOT QUITE CARE, PHYSICAL HEALTH AND HAPPY MOOD ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT.
If you can not solve the emotional problems of the elderly, it will lead to depression, confusion, and even no reason to vent emotions, causing contradictions.
In this case, if it is impossible to get along, the last and best thing to do is to give up.
Remember: Giving up is not abandoning.
What we give up is contradiction, and what we stick to is harmony and affection.
