In order to improve the quality of marriage, we should pay attention to the following problems in the life of husband and wife: 1. Don’t make your spouse feel lonely Sexual psychologists have found that loneliness is the main reason for adultery.
If the couple lack cordial and friendly emotional communication, loneliness will arise spontaneously.
Some scholars have found that couples where one partner puts all his or her energy into work.
However, ignoring the concern for the spouse will result in the spouse’s indifference to the couple’s sexual relationship.
When possible, they seek out new sexual relationships.
The sex life between husband and wife is the bond to maintain the love of husband and wife;
It is not only physical coitus, but also accompanied by emotional communication.
2. Don’t Make your life monotonous Dr. Sandeford pointed out in his book The Midlife Adjustment that boredom is a recipe for romantic change.
After a few years of marriage, the passions begin to cool down, and there are no longer the mysterious temptations of each other, either physically or emotionally. If the couple can’t explore and find a new, more satisfying way of living, some of the most treacherous ones are already looking for something truly and truly outside.
3, pay attention to respect the feelings of the spouse between the husband and wife quarrel too much, the so-called “big quarrel thirty-sixty-nine, small quarrel every day”, it will make feelings hurt and estrangement.
“Sorrow is greater than the death of the heart”, when one party suffered from the pain of injury and reached the limit of patience, it will make the loss of confidence in the marriage.
4, the correct treatment of sexual life between husband and wife to sexual life is improper, will also give the affair planted the seeds of sin.
In this regard, women seem to have more responsibility.
Generally speaking, men are more eager to have sex than women, and sometimes have to surrender to their wives in order to get a chance to have sex.
Some women discover this secret and use sex as a means of blackmail and control, but even as they feel smug, boredom and disgust creep into their husbands’ consciousness.
5, give full freedom to divorce Some social psychologists think, from the actual situation analysis, the reason why extramarital love is increasing trend, the fundamental reason is the lack of real freedom to divorce.
In today’s society, the concept of divorce is still very old. Some “dead” marriages, because of the restrictions from various aspects, feel that the cost of divorce is too great and they are deterred.
Therefore, the full freedom of divorce is also an important factor in reducing the phenomenon of extramarital affairs and improving the stability of marriage.
