Wendie Kidwell’s journey into the world of mental health advocacy was unexpected. After the heartbreaking loss of her oldest son, Ricky, to suicide, she found herself on a path she never anticipated—opening a nonprofit aimed at helping others struggling with mental health issues. Ricky’s Retreat, named in his honor, is set to open its doors to the Onslow County community on October 31.
The Vision Behind Ricky’s Retreat
Ricky Kidwell, a promising 22-year-old and state champion in track, battled severe anxiety that ultimately led to his tragic decision to end his life on April 16, 2022. As he pursued a track scholarship at the University of North Carolina Wilmington, he began experimenting with alcohol and marijuana to cope with his anxiety, a path that culminated in a battle with psychosis and multiple stays in mental health facilities.
In the wake of her son’s death, Wendie had a profound vision for a space dedicated to mental health support. “I literally saw what it was, what it looked like, what it was going to be,” she recounted. This vision included a house on stilts near water, surrounded by trees—a vision that has eerily come to fruition.
A Collaborative Effort
While initially operating Ricky’s Retreat from her garden, Wendie knew the project required a larger space. That’s when she connected with Mai Whelan, a local resident and U.S. Navy veteran who gained national attention after winning “Netflix’s Squid Game: The Challenge.” With her winnings, Whelan purchased a large property adjacent to her home in Swansboro, envisioning a hub for local nonprofits.
Remarkably, the property Whelan acquired also features a house on stilts near the water, aligning perfectly with Wendie’s vision. The space will not only house Ricky’s Retreat but will also accommodate other nonprofit initiatives, including an indoor training facility for Paws of War Eastern North Carolina. Whelan is also working on expanding the property to include a wildlife sanctuary, further emphasizing her commitment to supporting local nonprofits.
The Importance of Mental Health Support
Wendie and Whelan share a common goal: to provide resources and support for individuals struggling with mental health issues. “There are so many young people that struggle with the exact same things that Ricky did, and by using our lived experiences, we know we can make a difference,” Wendie said.
Ricky’s Retreat is designed to be a safe haven, featuring various amenities aimed at fostering mental wellness. The facility includes an art room, a library with a writing nook, a peer support room, and “The Cave,” a sensory space tailored for those who are neurodivergent or have autism. Outdoor spaces equipped with furniture, hammocks, and a fountain will provide tranquil areas for relaxation and reflection.
Community Engagement
Wendie and Whelan hope to involve the local community, particularly students from nearby Swansboro High School and Queens Creek Elementary, by offering volunteer opportunities at Ricky’s Retreat. The nonprofit is dedicated to being accessible to everyone, with plans to operate on Thursdays initially, as they gradually establish their programs.
“We’re moving slowly because we want to be a place of excellence,” Wendie explained. “Not perfection, but in order to make sure we develop excellence, we have to move slowly, make sure we have things in place.”
How to Get Involved
Ricky’s Retreat welcomes anyone seeking support or simply a place to talk. The nonprofit can be reached via Instagram, Facebook, or their website, where individuals can submit inquiries through a contact form. Wendie assures that responses will be prompt, with at least one staff member available during open hours.
Wendie’s journey reflects a broader commitment to mental health awareness, emphasizing the need for community support and understanding. Ricky’s Retreat stands as a beacon of hope and healing, honoring Ricky’s legacy while offering resources to those navigating similar struggles.
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