In a new segment where Amaliah addresses community dilemmas, one individual seeks advice on the apprehension surrounding an arranged marriage. Aunt Maya responds with compassion, offering guidance on navigating this common concern.
Expressing fear about not choosing the right life partner, the writer, at 26, grapples with parental pressure to marry. Aunt Maya acknowledges this widespread struggle and provides practical steps to alleviate anxiety.
To begin, Aunt Maya emphasizes the importance of self-awareness. Before delving into relationships with others, understanding personal expectations and deal-breakers is crucial. Recommending articles for self-reflection, she encourages the individual to clarify their desires for a marriage.
Drawing from the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), Aunt Maya underscores the significance of prioritizing good faith and character when seeking a spouse. Seeking advice from the community and assessing a potential partner’s associations can provide valuable insights.
Aunt Maya addresses the individual’s fear of a lifelong mistake, challenging the notion that marriage in Islam is synonymous with ’till death do us part.’ She reminds that Islam acknowledges the possibility of divorce when necessary, without stigmatizing individuals who have experienced it. Marriage, she notes, requires effort and intentionality from both parties.
Lastly, Aunt Maya advises open communication with parents about fears and preferences. While suggesting not to dismiss their choice outright, she advocates for engaging with the potential partner to learn more about oneself and refine one’s preferences.
Concluding with a heartfelt dua (prayer) from the Qur’an, Aunt Maya encourages the individual to seek joy in their future spouse, praying for a partner who brings comfort and joy.
This thoughtful response combines Islamic teachings, psychological insight, and personal empathy to guide the individual through the complexities of the arranged marriage dilemma.
