The great wheel of The Times keeps turning. Although the problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law exist now, the conflict points are different from those in traditional societies due to different values and cultural structures.
How does modern Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law face their conflicts?
What role should the master play?
Grasp the secret of getting along, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also be a family!
Part1 The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be seen from every aspect, such as daily life trifles, child rearing problems, and even quarreling for the husband.
All sorts of situation, all may cause the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Understand the reasons for the dispute so you can find a way to resolve it.
Where does the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem come from?
Since ancient times, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed, and the reason is nothing more than the two sides of the growth background and cultural concepts caused by different.
Before marriage, men and women only imagine and contact each other. Once married, they may have to live in different generations and different cultural concepts to get along with the mother-in-law, which is of course more difficult.
The battle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often over “power”, which may be space or an idea.
Generally speaking, people think that the difference between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be because the two sides are too big, but if they can accept each other’s ways, the ministry will certainly have a conflict.
On the contrary, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have similar points in personality. Although they may have different ways of doing things and attitudes, they have the same concept of many things, so they will want to grab the same resources. Under the failure to find similarities between the two sides, it is easy to become competition.
For EXAMPLE, THE TIME AFTER THE HUSBAND GETS OFF WORK HAS SO MUCH ONLY, IF MOTHER-IN-LAW AND DAUGHTER-IN-LAW TWO PEOPLE ALL WANT TO OCCUPY THIS PERIOD OF TIME, CAN APPEAR EXCLUSIVITY.
When the husband pays attention to one side, the other person feels left out, which leads to conflict.
Why?
Mother-in-law ATTITUDE BEFORE MARRIAGE AFTER MARRIAGE BIG “HAVEN’T MARRIED BEFORE, MOTHER-IN-LAW TO ME ALL VERY GOOD, WHY MARRIED ATTITUDE ALL DIFFERENT?”
Many daughters-in-law in the heart will have this doubt, before marriage mother-in-law polite are all false?
Before marriage, a daughter-in-law is still “the daughter of others”, but after marriage, she becomes “the daughter-in-law of our family”, and the two stand on a different footing.
Perhaps before marriage, although the mother-in-law is not satisfied with her son’s girlfriend, but because she does not want to affect the relationship between herself and her son, some words are hidden in the heart, once the marriage needs to live under the same roof, different living habits may cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Perhaps before marriage, the mother-in-law thinks it is not a big deal. After entering the same living space, she will argue because she does not like it, and the daughter-in-law will feel that the mother-in-law is going back on her word.
Mothers-in-law usually have expectations for the role of a daughter-in-law, but due to social changes, differences in ideas, different living habits and other reasons, many good hopes will be shattered, naturally causing contradictions in the heart.
There are hundreds of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships. According to the survey, mothers-in-law can be roughly divided into four types: authority, grief, indifference and democracy.
Each of her mother-in-law’s personality is not the same, daughter-in-law when dealing with the kind should grasp the key is different also, understand the characteristics of the mother-in-law, the way to find the right: Type1 authoritative traditional woman out relationship, her mother-in-law is authoritative master, but with the change of the concept and social change, the mother-in-law decreasing trend of this type.
The authoritative mother-in-law, who is often shrewd, demanding and opinionated, is a dictator who decides everything in the house.
Daughter-in-law coping rules: “listen” is the only way, even if you have different opinions with the mother-in-law, do not confront the conflict, follow her heart, at most laugh it off.
${FDPageBreak}Type2 Some mothers-in-law feel sorry for themselves and feel that their lives are very hard because they were abused by their mothers-in-law when they were young. When their roles are changed into mothers-in-law, they will not ask their daughters-in-law to do anything, do everything for their daughters-in-law, or even spoil their daughters-in-law.
Daughter-in-law coping rules: considerate mother-in-law, offer to help share the housework, don’t take everything for granted.
Some mothers-in-law will think that what their daughter-in-law and son do is none of my business, you are married is your business, I have my own life.
This type of mother-in-law, do not want to add to their own trouble, even if the grandson is born also do not want to help.
Daughter-in-law coping rules: understand the reason why the mother-in-law ignores people, and more mother-in-law get along with communication, close the distance between each other.
This type of mother-in-law respects the opinions of her daughter-in-law and is willing to solve problems through communication.
Daughter-in-law coping rules: there is such a mother-in-law, daughter-in-law is very happy, more and mother-in-law talk about the idea, will deepen the feelings of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
