I have a very virtuous wife, 8-year-old daughter is also very sensible and lovely, in the eyes of outsiders, our family is happy to let people envy.
Sometimes, I also want to be content, but the sight of small red (pseudonym) crying pear with rain, my heart is confused.
These days, Xiao Hong gave me an ultimatum, don’t divorce she will get married.
We have been together for 5 years, she is my favorite woman, how can I give up?
My wife and I were introduced to each other by friends after graduating from college. At that time, we were both working in government offices. My wife was 3 years younger than me and was a typical intellectual.
After three years of dating, we had a shotgun wedding, and everything went smoothly.
After marriage, the wife in addition to work is the family, devoted to the husband and the children, the daughter to teach everyone praise, also very filial piety to my parents, they have a disease, the wife will be busy after the doctor to buy medicine, solid to do it, family elders and relatives of her evaluation is very high.
With a good rear, I put the whole mind is used in the work, later into the sea to set up their own company, do well, according to the friend’s view is also into the ranks of successful people.
But marriage is so strange, fit fit only oneself know, my wife’s feeling completely like a family like that, before marriage and marriage are flat like a cup of water, between us only affection, can not find the shadow of love.
If it hadn’t been for Xiao Hong, maybe our marriage would have gone on like this. Because of Xiao Hong, I realized that I could still love someone so deeply. It’s a wonderful feeling.
If I had to choose again, I would not marry so early.
When you are young, you are blind to marriage and love. You don’t know what you want and who is suitable for you. Once you choose, you must be responsible.
Even if there is no feeling of marriage, there is still family in.
Every time, innocent daughter hug my neck childish childish play jiao, I will think, daughter so small, it is the time to need parents love, if one day I leave their mother, daughter should be how sad how hate me, think of here I dare not to think.
Also, my wife could hardly find fault with anything, and even my family spoke in her shoes, leaving me unable to open my mouth.
Xiao Hong and I got to know each other in the spring of 2004. We met at an event organized by our university when she was a senior.
Xiao Hong stands tall and graceful, has a kind of innocent sexy, and slightly reserved, deeply attracted me.
We kind of fell in love at first sight, and I always think the feeling of love depends a lot on first impression.
At that time, I was in my early thirties. I liked to have fun. When my friends got together, they all brought their girlfriends.
This girlfriend is not necessarily a lover, a simple female friend can be.
My initial relationship with Xiao Hong was more about vanity. We often joined a group of friends to sing songs, play ball games and attend dinner parties.
We dated on and off for about a month, and our feelings gradually warmed up.
Late one night, on our way back to the city from the suburbs, I was driving, she was sitting next to me, and somehow the atmosphere in the car became ambiguous.
Later, I pulled over to the side of a lonely road, and Xiao Hong lost her virginity to me.
And from then on, we just couldn’t get out of it, wanted to spend every day together.
I remember once we were inseparable for a week, and I strongly felt that each other was the one I liked and wanted to find. That feeling made me unforgettable and unforgettable for a lifetime.
From 2004 to now, Xiao Hong has been alone with me.
In early 2007, Xiao Hong went to work in a southern city because her major in college was more suitable for her career there.
In the first few months, she cried on the phone every day, saying that she wanted me badly. We often talked for more than two hours, saying endless love words and telling endless thoughts.
I flew in to see her every week, sometimes twice a week, and then the stewardess on that flight knew me.
Half a year later, Xiao Hong resigned and came back. She bought a house and lived near my company. She said she missed me very much and wanted to be with me every day.
By this time, my heart was completely attracted to her, and we were together almost every day.
Xiao Hong is very cute. I even think she is cute when she is angry and crying.
When we were together, Xiao Hong always tried to give me good food, wash my clothes clean, stack neatly, for me to write a lot of diary, every time I look at it is very moved.
After Xiao Hong came back, she served as the manager of a western restaurant. I fully supported her work, gave her advice, and gradually invested more than 200,000 yuan for her, so that she became the shareholder of the western restaurant.
${FDPageBreak} The longer the conflict between love and marriage, the deeper our love, to the point of inseparable.
For 5 years, Xiao Hong aborted for me twice, which made me feel especially guilty. The balance of feelings tilted to her day by day.
After that, I was so absorbed in her that I didn’t touch my wife for three months at a time.
My wife sensed a change in me and was subtle at first, but then she typed up my newsletter.
Faced with a long list of numbers, the wife got angry and said, “If you have someone out there, tell them. We’ll be honest.”
I was about to press the issue when my wife’s face changed.
I was afraid something might go wrong, so I kept quiet, neither admitting nor denying.
My wife was very angry and sent me to sleep on the sofa, so I ran to Xiao Hong.
Xiao Hong said happily: “She don’t want you I want you!”
Unexpectedly, the wife’s phone then called, over and over again, put through only cry not to talk.
I was afraid she had an accident, regardless of small red block back home.
When they left, Xiao Hong cried into tears.
My wife and I stopped after a while. She didn’t want to give up our family.
If she goes on and on with me, maybe I’ll stick it out and get a divorce.
My wife’s tolerance leaves me helpless.
On the other hand, things began to change.
Since 2008, she has been pushing me for a divorce, and every time she has cried, she has held me in her arms and cried so hard that she broke my heart.
Last year, on Xiao Hong’s birthday, I bought a bunch of flowers to visit her and stayed with her until past 1 a.m.
Xiao Hong still let me divorce, during that time she wrapped me a little tight, let me a little annoyed, so I will go home.
Xiao Hong refused to let go. She hugged me and cried.
My ox strength also came up, insisted on leaving, finally angry will buy the roses trampled to shreds, head also walked.
The next day, Xiao Hong called me and said as usual, “Come and have dinner.”
If she’d just shut me out, maybe it would’ve gone away, but she was still so nice to me.
Before the Spring Festival in 2009, Xiao Hong asked me to go home with her for the Spring Festival, and touched me with her tears and tenderness.
On New Year’s Eve, I went back to my hometown with her and visited her parents.
I only stayed one afternoon and came back overnight.
I was touched by the harmonious atmosphere in Xiao Hong’s home, and the way she behaved in front of her parents made me realize that this girl really wanted to be with me forever.
Xiao Hong’s parents didn’t know the truth about me. She just told them that I was her boyfriend.
I know Xiao Hong is not easy, very moved, and the idea of staying with her.
Finally how to choose after the Spring Festival, after thinking hard, I asked my wife for a divorce.
Her first reaction was to burst into tears and ask me, “Why are you doing this to me?”
I couldn’t answer. My mind was in a whirl.
My mother reacted violently, saying that if I went through with it, she would leave the house without me as her son.
Red also began to give me problems.
Not long after the Spring Festival, Xiao Hong refused to let me into the house and threw out my clothes, saying that I would not go to her again unless I got a divorce.
That night, I walked around Xiao Hong’s house more than ten times, and she didn’t answer the phone, which made me angry and sad.
In March, I came back from a business trip, the first time I went to find Xiao Hong.
We hadn’t seen each other for more than two weeks, and when we saw each other we held each other tightly as usual. I stayed over at Xiao Hong’s that day and loved her very much.
My wife and I haven’t felt this way since the beginning. No matter how many days I travel, we are very calm.
In the dark, I reached out to touch small red’s face, touched a full of tears.
She said, her life with me, life as long as I this man.
She also said that she would do anything if she could marry me. “How could you be so cruel to ask me to marry someone else…”
And with that she cried again.
In the five years we’ve been together, this is the worst she’s ever cried.
Xiao Hong listed the grievances she had suffered following me for so many years. She said that she was 26 years old, and her parents and relatives often urged her to get married. She really couldn’t stand it anymore.
The sound of her crying felt like a heavy drumstick on my heart, and I was determined to put her out of her present misery.
I promised Xiao Hong that I would give her a reply before May Day.
The days were closing in, and I knew I could no longer avoid them.
What are the trade-offs?
These few days, I resemble dropped soul son same, abandon which is painful, how should I do after all?
