How do you know if you love someone? This can be a common problem because we tend to have a variety of complicated relationship situations during the course of our relationship, and sometimes it can be difficult to tell if your feelings have sublimated into love.
To solve this problem, we need to analyze the characteristics and manifestations of love to determine whether we have true love for someone. Here are some tests and considerations that might be useful:
1. Emotional test:
Love is often a strong emotional experience, so detecting whether your emotions have sublimated into love is a key point in determining whether you love someone or not. Here are some possible tests:
Ask yourself:
How do you feel when you think about this person? If your thoughts about this person make you feel warm and happy inside, then you probably like or are in love with this person.
Ask yourself:
When you see this person (or mention his/her name), do you feel a racing heart, dry mouth, or some kind of physical response, such as a smile? If anything, it may indicate a strong crush or affection.
Ask yourself:
Do you think about him/her often, whether at night or during the day? If you keep thinking about this person, then it may be because you have developed special feelings for him/her.
2. Perform tests:
Love is often not just an emotion, but also requires action or concrete action. Knowing if we are devoting time and energy to this person, or if we want to make various efforts for him/her, can help us determine if we are in love with this person. Here are some possible tests:
Ask yourself:
How often do you want to spend time or do certain other things with this person, or even be willing to sacrifice some of your own time to make your life more comfortable or enjoyable for this person? If so, this may indicate that you have developed strong feelings for him/her.
Ask yourself:
When you think of this person, do you silently pray for him/her or lower your expectations for him/her? If so, it probably means you love this person.
Ask yourself:
Are you making any sacrifices for them, or even violating your own personal values or positions? If so, it probably shows that you love him/her and are willing to make sacrifices for him/her.
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3. Trust Test:
It’s based on mutual trust. It can’t be taken for granted. If you feel a natural sense of trust in someone, this is a sign that you may already be in love. Here are some tests that might be useful:
Ask yourself:
Do you have enough trust to speak up, to listen to what he or she has to say, and to trust him or her? If so, this may indicate that you are looking for a deep emotional experience, namely love.
Ask yourself: Is your relationship with him/her natural, without any stress or tension? If so, it may indicate that you have developed feelings for him/her and have developed a friendship/intimacy.
4. Psychological Test:
Tests such as the Interaction pattern test or the Prevention of emotional reinforcement test can help people assess whether they love someone based on their own problems and thoughts. People react differently when confronted with someone, and these reactions can reveal a lot about our character, as well as a natural reaction to whether or not we love someone. Here are some possible tests:
Ask yourself:
Are you especially forgiving, kind, loving, and gentle with this person, as opposed to the way you would normally treat other people? If so, it may indicate that you have developed strong feelings for him/her.
Ask yourself:
Do you develop strong feelings for him/her, but still adhere to your own personal values or decisions? If yes, this may indicate that you want to have a long-term relationship with him/her, but still need to follow your principles and decisions in terms of personal growth.
In general, how to judge whether you really love someone is an experience and feeling, involving three levels of emotion, action and thought. When trying to test or detect your emotions, you need to be alert to avoid blindness and over-emotion. If you are confused about your feelings or have any questions, seek professional counseling and therapy help to understand your feelings and relationships.
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