Social media’s influence on relationships is well-documented, but new research suggests its impact on marital mental health is more insidious than previously thought. A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that excessive social media use is linked to higher rates of marital dissatisfaction, jealousy, and emotional distress. The study, which analyzed data from over 3,000 married individuals, revealed that couples who spent more than two hours daily on social media were 50% more likely to report feelings of neglect or insecurity in their marriage.
One of the most concerning findings was the role of comparison in driving marital discontent. Many participants admitted to comparing their relationships to the curated, idealized versions they saw online, leading to unrealistic expectations and frustration. Dr. Rachel Simmons, a social psychologist, explains that social media creates a “highlight reel” effect, where couples unconsciously measure their own relationships against staged moments of perfection. This often results in feelings of inadequacy, even in otherwise healthy marriages.
Another major issue is the erosion of privacy and trust due to social media interactions. The study found that 34% of respondents had experienced conflict over their partner’s online behavior, including liking ex-partners’ posts or engaging in private messaging with others. These digital interactions, though often harmless, can trigger deep-seated insecurities and lead to unnecessary arguments. In some cases, social media even facilitated emotional infidelity, with individuals forming intimate connections outside their marriage through platforms like Instagram or TikTok.
Mental health experts emphasize the need for digital boundaries in marriages. Couples are encouraged to have open discussions about social media use, including what behaviors feel acceptable and what doesn’t.
Some therapists recommend periodic “social media detoxes” where couples disconnect from platforms to reconnect with each other. However, the broader challenge lies in societal norms—social media is deeply embedded in daily life, making it difficult for many to recognize its impact on their relationships. Researchers urge couples to be mindful of their online habits and prioritize face-to-face interactions to safeguard their marital mental health.
