On this day, I took my 12-year-old son Zhouzhou and his 8-year-old cousin Hanhan to a restaurant for dinner. I didn’t want to see this scene: the owner’s son, who was about two or three years old, was playing in the mud at the door, with a small face and small hands. The whole body is dirty, but the child is immersed in his own entertainment world, completely self-absorbed and leisurely.
His mother saw it, rushed over and shouted, “It’s dirty, it’s dirty, don’t play!” Seeing that the child didn’t respond, the mother pulled him up, but the child just didn’t want to leave his game. At this moment, the shop owner came over, picked up the child, and slapped his butt twice.
The child was very aggrieved and cried. The only way to take care of children’s growth psychology Witnessed all this, I asked Zhouzhou, “Do you think his parents did the right thing? What do you think should be done?” Zhouzhou answered naturally: “Let him play, Just give him a bath when he’s done playing.
“I asked Hanhan again: “How do you deal with such a problem?” Hanhan pondered for a while and replied: “I went to find a toy that he had never played with, and drew his attention to this toy, and he will be happy.
But, I don’t understand, why didn’t his parents let him keep playing? What’s wrong with playing in the mud?” Many kids grow up going through something similar, when they’re concentrating on something that interests them. , interrupted or blocked by adults on the grounds that, in the adult world, it is “wrong” or “inappropriate”.
In fact, “right or wrong”, “suitable” or not, are only the values of the adult world. For children, they are only experiencing the inevitability of growing up. I can’t help but think of this sentence: When the process of growth is often interrupted, how can we expect this life to grow to an ideal height?
