When the woman in love might as well send out seven weapons.
There are two outcomes: one is that he becomes the lover or husband you want him to be;
One is that he gets scared off.
Either way, both outcomes are worth trying.
Does he really want to see what his crush is going to do with your relationship, but he doesn’t know how to ask?
Men have a lot to say about their future plans. They talk about work, sports, watching boxing shows on weekends and so on.
But when it comes to relationship development, they either shut up, walk away or play dumb.
In fact, this phenomenon is normal.
For men, “the future” mostly means career advancement, more opportunities, more money and fame.
And in the emotional aspect, once the decision is made, the future road is not wider and wider, but narrower and narrower.
Because after the relationship is settled, he will no longer have a single status, no chance to find a girlfriend, and will have to face a woman all day.
No wonder he’s thinking twice.
How do you get these men who don’t want to be tied down so easily to make a firm decision?
No matter how impatient you are, don’t ask him directly, let alone let him realize that the decision he has to make will be a constraint on him.
Here are a few ways to solve this problem and show you how to take the initiative without making a big deal of it.
Of course, the implementation of each method is somewhat risky.
But there are two outcomes: one is that he becomes the lover or husband you want him to be;
One is that he gets scared off.
Either way, both outcomes are worth trying.
If the former, nature is a piece of their heart disease, everyone is happy;
If the latter is the case, he is not serious about you, and you don’t need to waste your time on him.
One of the Seven weapons: Participating in exciting sports is not about risking your life, it’s about making him feel like you have a life beyond him.
It’s a lot more powerful than canceling a date just to make him jealous.
If he knows you’re canceling to go to martial arts class and an exercise class tomorrow, not only will he feel a sense of urgency, but he’ll also admire you.
For peace of mind, he might consider making the relationship permanent.
It’s best to choose a sport he’s interested in. This will increase the temptation for him.
Risk factor: “small”, because if the plan fails, you won’t lose it.
“Big”, if you choose too exciting sports, your life will be at risk (remember: no man is worth risking your life for).
Tell him you’re going on a vacation with friends and only send him a postcard when you think about it.
At first he may not care, thinking that you are just going out and nothing serious will happen.
Once he knows that you had a great time with your friends, he’ll remember how lonely he is without you and realize how much you mean to him.
Risk factor: Medium or large.
If he’s a playboy and wants you to go out so he can meet other women, don’t talk to him.
If that’s not who he is and you still can’t get an answer from him, then he doesn’t care that you’re with someone else.
So, if you meet someone you love at first sight during the holidays, don’t hesitate.
Weapon 3 of 7: Act like you already know his answer In other words, take the initiative.
Consider yourself his only girlfriend, lover, or fiancee, depending on the situation.
Men can be very forgetful.
Your behavior may lead him to believe that he has made a statement to you, but he can’t remember it.
You can help him clean his room from time to time, go shopping with him, or remind him to pick up food or necessities to bring home after work.
Even if they don’t live together, they can also create a comfortable and warm atmosphere of “home” for him.
Risk factor: Large.
If he is lucky, he may slip into a new role in life.
Otherwise, he will blame you for being too hasty, but at least this can be seen as the beginning of his thinking about your relationship.
Men never trust women, especially the ones they love, to have real male friends.
This may be because he is a man himself, so he has a better understanding of men’s thoughts and actions.
It’s a good idea to goad him by dating other male friends.
Your male friend will soon become extremely important to him;
He was desperate to know why you were together and even offered to meet him.
At that point, you’re halfway there.
Since he has recognized your importance, the next step is to ask for something from you.
Risk factor: If the male friend does not exist, the risk factor is high.
Wouldn’t it be awkward if he asked to meet this made-up “boyfriend”?
In addition, even if such a friend exists, if he doesn’t care, then you have to find another way, such as leaving him, with the male friend and so on.
Make a Spending Decision Alone By offering to dip into a large portion of your savings, the reason is to let him know that your life is not up to him.
If he asks why you didn’t ask for his advice, you can say, half-jokingly, “Hey, I didn’t marry you!”
If he wants to be involved in your financial decisions, the next step is to clarify his relationship with you.
If you don’t have anything specific to spend money on, feel free to put all kinds of ads where he can see them and show that he’s interested and really going to spend money.
Why would he not ask?
Risk factor: Small.
It’s not going to scare him away, it’s just going to make him feel a little lost.
Isn’t that great?
Tell him you want to leave town. Tell him solemnly that you have discussed the possibility of living in another city and that you are satisfied — that you can find a good job, that conditions are good, that you are sending in your resume, and that you are tired of your current city.
If he asks, “Is it me?”
You can answer, “Maybe yes, maybe no.”
The important thing is for him to discuss the pros and cons of moving with you. This is the beginning of his relationship with you.
Risk factor: Large.
He may let you do whatever you want because he thinks you’re fooling around.
Then you’ll have to do it for real.
Not to move to another city, just to get out of his life.
The other possibility is that he’s moving out with you.
That’s either going to make your relationship work out, or you’re actually moving out.
End of the Seven Weapons: Finally, buy him a compass Buy him a compass at any store and leave a message: “Let me know when you decide where to go.
I may or may not go (signature: Dear So-and-so) “.
Risk factor: Very large, only use this method when you’ve had enough of his indecision.
If he does, you should find someone who takes you seriously.
Effectiveness check: Several men say — “She gives me complete freedom and seems indifferent to what I do;
I go where I like and she never interferes.
I hated it. I even asked her myself if I could go out with my friends, just to hear her reaction.
She just kept repeating that she wasn’t my mother, and that I could do whatever I wanted.
Finally, I married her.”
— A 38-year-old writer “My girlfriend started working all day.
We used to date a lot, but we spent our weekends together;
It wasn’t until she started taking bodybuilding classes and putting off dates so many times that it was as if the intensity of life had taken over her and I was completely excluded.
I can’t help but wonder why she suddenly became so great.
But I know she did it for me.
I can’t bear to leave her alone any longer.
Finally I asked her if she would be my girlfriend.
Even worse, I was in that bodybuilding class.”
“Six months after we started dating, she told me she was going into business for herself.
Up until this point, our relationship had been going well;
But after that, I never saw her. She was busy all day.
It’s hard to get her attention.
At last I could stand it no longer and asked her to marry me.
Luckily, she said yes and agreed to take a break from business to go on their honeymoon.”
A 34-year-old professor “Two months after we started dating, she suggested getting a puppy.
It seemed simple, but I knew she wanted to take our relationship to the next level by sharing one thing at a time.
So I thought about our relationship.
It’s not just about dating and getting a pet.
When I gave her a puppy, everything became clear.”
A 31-year-old graphic designer.
