As long as the space between people is too close, there are bound to be contradictions. Different values, different views on people and things and different ways of handling them all lead to inevitable contradictions.
There will be bumps between husband and wife, but the husband and wife have specific division of labor and cooperation, especially after love and living together, the values of the husband and wife tend to be the same, at the same time, there is emotional basis, feelings bring tolerance and understanding and compromise.
But mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not have such a foundation of feelings and values, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be cultivated, values are difficult to converge.
The two often influence each other.
If the relationship is good, different values can be accommodated (such as the quarrel and compromise between mother and daughter), if the values are different or even sharp conflict, it is often difficult to cultivate the relationship.
In the endless contradictions, feelings have not been cultivated before, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been destroyed very thoroughly.
Based on my own experience, I think the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are mostly caused by the mother-in-law’s reluctance to play a supporting role in the son’s family life. However, she is often deceived by the excuse of “for the son’s good”, and even the mothers-in-law themselves have successfully deceived themselves.
What is the meaning of marriage for a woman if she is not in charge of her family life with her husband according to her own will?
If the husband can not stand in this height to look at the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but only ask the wife to concede and respect the mother, the wife in the marriage taste only pain rather than happiness, similarly, the husband will not have happiness.
This is how the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affects the relationship between husband and wife.
Many women, in such a hopeless marriage, will all hope on the child, the child’s feelings rely on a very serious degree, the future children big, married, and will have what kind of relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
I can’t imagine.
Perhaps today’s young mothers are sensible enough to choose their own old age.
If husbands want to establish their own independent family life and create a happy marriage for themselves and their wives, they must realize that: 1. Filial piety comes in many forms.
Don’t have to live together to be called filial piety.
If possible, try not to tie your mother to your wife.
2, if live together, please do through the mother’s ideological work, tube more, is subjective love, objective harm.
In the family of sons and daughters-in-law, the role of the mother can only be a supporting role, to be a happy mother (except for the husband who marries not to marry a housewife but to marry a nanny and fertility tools).
Of course, no one wants to quit the stage of history, but isn’t it cruel to ask husbands to deprive their wives of the right to perform on the stage of history just because their mothers quit?
3, if live together, please ask his wife to respect the obligations of the elderly, while making it clear that his wife should have the right to match.
Mother-in-law shall not interfere in defining the scope of husband and wife’s affairs.
These categories include: the rights and obligations of husband and wife to love and respect each other (mothers-in-law must realize that it is the mother-in-law’s fault, not the husband’s or wife’s fault). Of course, the wife should not interfere with the relationship between mother and child;
The couple’s financial affairs;
The education of children;
The wife’s right to call the shots in family matters.
4, if the mother out of love son and make the son and daughter-in-law opposite action, please husbands to take the initiative to realize that this “love” action will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
(Few husbands can recognize and discern this). It is best to refuse artfully, so as not to make the mother feel good and the son ungrateful, and at the same time not to affect the relationship between the couple.
With the right to guarantee the above affairs, no matter how mother-in-law, daughter-in-law can give way.
Although a woman is born with a small mind, but most of the wife a lot of small things or open, can not care about.
Husband’s s ‘mores might be a little easier.
It is difficult for sons to communicate with mothers-in-law who are uneducated or literate but strong-willed.
But modern husbands are the husband of culture, at least in the heart should have such a concept or concept, in such a concept of guidance to look at and deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so you get the wife.
It’s up to the boys to figure out how to deal with the mother who can’t talk.
I add carrots policy, the husband is the power of mother fully satisfy in the material, spiritual care, but involves the above transaction problem of husband and wife, is to persuade mother, persuasion is not roar on a (husband, but not too much), at this time, I generally avoid, hide not open is ignored, resolute don’t backfire, so as not to cut.
The quiet periods in the home are getting longer, and the husband’s days are getting better.
