A college friend, Xuan Xuan, told me that she was getting divorced and that her husband, Kang, had brought it up because Kang had fallen in love with another woman.
The moment I saw Xuan, I couldn’t believe my eyes. She was obviously fat, she was wearing a lazy dress, and she had a corpulent expression on her face. It was hard to imagine that this was our family flower.
Just sat down, Xuan began her Xianglin sister-in-law like narration.
From when I was in college, I began to remember Kang’s fickleness.
The second year after marriage, Xuan stopped working, and Kang’s company grew big enough to support the family.
Xuanxuan has forgotten almost everything she learned at school and has no work experience.
If Kang must divorce, Xuanxuan heart is really uncertain.
On the way home, I was thinking all the time: In those days so outstanding Xuan, actually also did not let his marriage come to an end, the main fault seems to be in kang, but Xuan also did not have fault?
Her mistake was that she had forgotten to keep a sense of crisis in her marriage.
I once read an article entitled “Rival in Love is not old”. The woman in the article began to dress up carefully, go out every day in a happy mood, work harder, and win the admiration of her leaders and colleagues.
She also picked up the paintbrush she had discarded for five or six years and became a famous “beauty painter” in the city. Finally, her husband took the initiative to break off communication with his lover and returned to her side.
“I owe it to that woman,” she said, “to give me a shot of magic at a time when I was in a particularly languid, lazy life, and instantly activated me to compete with her with all my intelligence and charm.”
In fact, in marriage, we should be in this kind of attitude to treat their marriage, time to show their most charming side, let the other side always with a kind of appreciation of the eye to see you, so as to consciously and actively increase his (her) in the cost of marriage to invest again.
Long-term marriage, like a love run, who will be eliminated from the risk, only the initiative of love in their own hands is the most important.
Even if things go badly and the walls fall down, you’ll at least have the energy you need to take off again.
