Divorced with her ex-husband Cheng Qiang, her ex-husband’s family and friends all hate to say: “Did not expect Shen Juan developed, a kick kicked away the dreg of the husband!”
I told them calmly: “I broke up with Cheng Qiang, there is no other reason, there is no ‘third party’, but the quality difference between us is too big.
I can’t think of anything, and I can’t do it. There’s too much conflict and pain.
I can’t live like this.”
In 1995, I was working in a vocational and technical school.
Later, because the vocational school is particularly depressed, so, under the support of Cheng Qiang, I set up a beauty salon.
When we started the business, we were very cooperative.
The beauty parlor needs fresh smell and can’t cook, so he delivers food to me and my staff in thermos twice a day.
In winter, no matter how late the salon closed, he would pick me up on time.
In the beginning, he was really my best “consigliere”, “assistant” and “strong support”.
By March of the following year, we had paid off the bank loan.
When we had our first beauty salon, Cheng Qiang and I were single-minded.
When I decided to open a chain of beauty salons in 2001, he was a little upset.
In 2003, I opened two chains of beauty salons.
At this time, he actually gave birth to “daughter-in-law is too capable to rely on” panic, face like frost dozen long eggplant.
When the business is done bigger and bigger should open the fourth chain beauty parlor, be opposed by Cheng Qiang strongly, the contradiction of us also begins to intensify.
“The business can’t get any bigger, just enough money,” he said.
I found this unreasonable, so I retorted, “Starting a business is not only about making money, but also about demonstrating competitiveness.
Opportunities are rare in life.
Now that we have the conditions to go up another level, why not go up?”
But Cheng was determined to stop me from expanding and reoperating. He was being unreasonable and started making trouble for me.
In the morning when I had to go to work, he stopped me from leaving and told me I had to cook for him.
At night, no matter how late I came back, he would ask me to heat his hot water and wash his feet.
To my disgust, he made love to me night after night, regardless of how tired I was.
He slept at home during the day, even took aphrodisiac pills behind my back, and had sex two or three times a night.
He tormented me in such a way that I had no energy at work during the day.
I resisted this, and his theory was that as his wife, I had to fulfill all the responsibilities of being a wife.
In this way, our differences are getting bigger and bigger, three days a small quarrel, five days a big quarrel, soon into the “white hot” state.
One day, in the middle of the day, he barged into my studio, smelling of alcohol, and yelled at me in front of the staff and the beauty guests.
Two days later, he came reeking of alcohol, and asked me to close the shop immediately and go home to bed with him!
I ignored his nonsense. He smashed things in my studio and swore at me.
And then it got worse.
I want to buy a 150 square meter commercial front office. When I was ready to pay for the house, the developer said it had been sold to someone else.
Asked why the other party broke the contract, the other party said that the default is me and not him.
The original two days ago, he received a phone call from Cheng Qiang, said the commercial storefront did not buy, would rather let the retainer 60 thousand dollars wasted.
I was so angry I cried most of the night.
Then another heavy blow struck me.
I was looking at the latest beauty equipment made in America, and when I was about to pay for it, I found that my money was $200,000 short.
Where’s the money?
The only people who can spend our money are him and me, and if I didn’t move it, then he must have.
In the evening I tried to ask him, but he didn’t come home all night, and then I didn’t see him for two or three days.
On the fourth day, someone called me from the Qipan Mountain scenic Area, 30 kilometers away, and asked me to come immediately.
When I got there, I saw Cheng Qiang whose face was bruised and bruised.
What surprised me more was that he had gambled here so many times.
This time he lost all his money, tried to use the bathroom to run away, was found half beaten to death.
It turned out that I was 200 grand short of the money to buy new beauty equipment, and he had lost it.
“Why are you doing this?
Why on earth?”
I asked him the question repeatedly.
Cheng Qiang originally was not such a person, he had so hate gambler, so support me, so hope I do a career, but why do he now behind my “hand”?
Cheng Qiang answered me with a sneer: “This question is very simple, a woman earns too much money, is not a wife.”
I asked him for evidence that I had a “third party”. He said, “I know you don’t have a” third party “, but you don’t have me in your heart, and I don’t have the dignity of the head of any family.”
I asked him to speak with the facts, and he said that I would not listen to him, which is my lack of him in my heart.
Oh my god!
I never dreamed that he would be so narrow-minded.
But I still don’t want to give up, still want to explain to him, want to persuade him to change his mind.
But he was angry and issued a warning to me: “Shen Juan, I tell you, if you do not immediately ‘cliff stop’, do not stop expanding the scale of beauty salon, I will take new action, not only to gamble, I will take drugs, you earn all the money to get a clean…”
I said, “If you bet again, I’ll turn you in.”
Cheng Qiang came over with a roar, pushed me to the ground, and then began to kick and punch…
My heart is completely cold, cool, wood, stiff.
Finally, we agreed to a divorce.
I am willing to give my two houses and 500,000 yuan deposit to Cheng Qiang and live with my son.
Of all my possessions, I only owned the beauty salon that I had been building for years.
Comment: NOWADAYS, BECAUSE OF THE QUALITY DIFFERENCE, THE phenomenon OF “DIVORCE WIFE”, “husband”, has been more common, and gradually become a major social focus of hot spots.
According to a Liaoning municipal court’s statistics on couples divorcing within a year, 21.7 percent of divorces were for this reason.
Divorce is not because of the “third party”, has increasingly become a “fashion”.
The quality difference between husband and wife is manifested in many aspects: the collision of various ideas, the level of decision-making, the pros and cons of solving problems, the size of the ability to develop in difficult situations…
In particular, some career started before long, just see the developed family, the quality difference between husband and wife produced by the contradiction is more prominent, intense.
The couple in the text has such a distinctive characteristic.
In fact, for modern people, not only love is the foundation of marriage, the same quality of husband and wife is also a can not be despised “cornerstone”.
“Is there a big difference in quality between you and your husband?”
“Is becoming the question” Is your relationship strong?
A synonym for “.
In today, to cherish their marriage, no matter for the man or for the woman, must pay attention to improve their own quality, both husband and wife in the quality should be synchronized forward.
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