From an implicit point of view, marriage is like a war without gunpowder smoke. Both parties devise various means to overwhelm each other from the aura first, and then completely subdue each other through both hard and soft means.
Achilles heel 1: I believe that ordinary happiness is true. After the love relationship between a man and a woman is confirmed, the relationship heats up rapidly, and they both yearn for the two of them to go on for a long time and live a life in a down-to-earth manner. There are too many illusions in love. The life you desire on the surface is bland, but in fact it is difficult to maintain. The relationship between two people has been flat for a long time, and it is easy to be attracted by the temptation and stimulation of the outside world. They can’t wait to start their own pace and run towards the world you yearn for. At this time, a crack appears in the marriage. Longing for an ordinary life is actually beautiful. This desire is based on this foundation: You love me as deeply as I love you, you cherish me unswervingly as I love my life, and our love is like honey Sweet, blooming like a hundred flowers. As long as this foundation is laid well, and this foundation is stabilized for a long time, then this love will be fresh for a long time. In the process of laying the foundation and consolidating the foundation, they are actually spending their time trying to please each other, repeatedly evoking each other’s gratitude and love for each other.
Achilles heel 2: To believe that to love someone is to trust him completely. When love blooms, women don’t have much reason. They are easy to defeat themselves, keep persuading themselves, and turn an ordinary man into a Buddha, worship him, look up to him, trust him, and completely lose Rely on this person rationally. Only when this man was withdrawn from her life one day did she vaguely feel that the bone marrow hurts, the nerves are bad, and the whole world collapses. In marriage, a woman should trust her husband, but she should also trust herself, believing that he can be the whole of life or just a part of life. Therefore, in marriage, we must learn to be independent, and we must also learn to be a little woman. If you stand next to this man, you will let him see your brilliance. Within a certain distance, there is bound to be a hazy beauty.
Achilles heel three: I believe that tolerance can restore the derailed heart. In ordinary life, any product we buy has its shelf life and maintenance period, and the same is true for marriage. Marriage has a certain shelf life. When a person cheats once, the shelf life will expire, and the maintenance period will also expire. Before the expiration date, this man will more or less do something wrong and hurt your heart, such as being less careful and considerate than before. The reason why it can still be guaranteed is because he is still loyal to your marriage. When a person cheats and the maintenance period of the marriage expires, if one party forgives the other for various reasons, this tolerance of cheating is a kind of torture for each other. Between each other, there will be suspicion and suspicion of each other, it is better to get together and break up, at least in retrospect, the relationship will not be so bleak, and it will not cause your life to suffer too much pain. Marriage is a kind of responsibility, and it comes together because of love. When love does not exist one day, then it will perish. Don’t leave a message, don’t deceive yourself, face the reality is the best forgiveness for yourself.
Although marriage is filled with various pressures, the world of love is ultimately for two people. No one can really take away and destroy a person’s love unless they are not good at managing and taking care of them. Marriage, like those flowers and plants, needs care, pruning, and irrigation. The best way to keep your marriage fresh is to start with the kind of marriage you desire, and start preparing the materials first to create the ideal marriage state you want, and the other party will naturally follow your footsteps. Help you achieve “marriage career”.
