How to raise a boy better? More and more evaluations of men’s lack of masculinity make us have to reflect on the growth of men. Such as the New Zealand writer Tapu. Misa said that “all problems in the world can be attributed to poor parenting or lack of parenting”, and the root of this problem lies in the way we raise boys. Like girls, boys have innate self-esteem. They cry when they are hurt, make trouble when they are unhappy, and don’t like being beaten or scolded. The difference is that male hormones begin to be secreted before birth, and boys are more active than girls in the womb. After birth, there are many differences with girls, such as large appetite, strong body, solid personality, active and active, and language development is later than girls. Studies have found that the left and right brain halves of boys have fewer connections than girls, so boys have more extensive nerves than girls, less delicate emotions, and less intense reactions after being beaten and scolded. illusion. Although most fathers prefer to have boys before their children are born due to traditional and secular beliefs, the father-son relationship is often not as good as the father-daughter relationship. There may be an internal cause of same-sex repulsion, and more importantly, boys are more active than girls, and it is possible that the family will be riotous, causing parents to be bored and angry, and will be beaten and abused. Children who have been beaten and scolded for a long time will lose self-confidence, become cowardly and timid in their hearts, and will intensify bullying the weak when they have the opportunity, and inevitably change from abused to abuser.
Every boy is born with the potential need to be a hero. Boys love to play heroes, play action-style fighting games, and have the desire to be protectors since childhood. How to raise a better boy when there are boys in the family? This demand is often manifested in frenzied disturbances, causing parents to be dissatisfied and repressed. Freedom is restricted, games are forced to stop or change, the boy’s heroic nature is wiped out, and his natural attributes be twisted. In the secular concept, the crying of girls is a magic weapon, and the crying of boys is shameful. Even in Western countries, psychologists did not realize this problem until recent years that men also need to cry to express their negative emotions. Crying when sad can drain toxins from the body through tears, which is good for health and more psychological. Healthy and beneficial. Old worldly concepts such as “boys don’t cry easily” and “crying is sissy, not like a man” make men ashamed to show negative emotions such as crying in front of others, and boys’ crying is often forcibly stopped by parents. This is unnatural. When a child loses his natural way of expressing his feelings, he will not only be mentally confused, but also become insensitive. While he is constantly experiencing coldness and incomprehension, he will naturally become rough-hearted and lose his sympathy. He would be rude to mothers, wives, children, and other weaklings.
Yes, male hormones make men compete for dominance and vigor, so men with strong self-confidence have super achievements in career. Male chromosomes are yy, male thinking is linear, he can study deeply and attentively in a specific field, has strong logical thinking ability and spatial imagination ability, and is a natural talent in many aspects such as science, science, engineering, philosophy, business leaders, etc. How to raise a boy better? If the boy’s nature is understood and protected from childhood, he will be very cute and successful when he grows up.
