Although it is a normal phenomenon for children to depend on their parents, if parents “take over” everything for their children, they will not only feel tired and upset, but also shackle their children’s hands, feet and mind. Psychological and lazy emotions. The growth of young children is a combination of physical and psychological growth. If children only get adequate nutrition from food, but their minds cannot receive “nutritious” education, their developing autonomous thinking will be constrained. So, how can we correct the child’s dependence psychology? First of all, parents must consciously build up their children’s self-confidence. Self-confidence is the foundation of human existence. To build up children’s self-confidence, “participation” education should be adopted. From the beginning of the child’s understanding, parents can seek more opinions from their children in appropriate occasions and let their children participate in some things. Such as buying a toy, buying a book, you have to let go in a timely manner, so that not only does things well, follows his own wishes, but also subconsciously cultivates his enthusiasm for “self-assertion”, so that children can gain from “participation” The joy of success and the boost of self-confidence.
Secondly, parents should let their children do what they can in time and take more responsibilities. Attention should be paid to putting forward a reasonable code of conduct suitable for their age group. As the child grows, the “freedom” given to him should be increased accordingly, so that the “authority” of the child’s own decision will be continuously relaxed. For example, at the age of 4, let the child learn to wash his handkerchief; at the age of 5, let him begin to learn to clean up his bed and drawer; at the age of 6 to 7, teach him to cook some simple meals… Parents should not “interfere in internal affairs” excessive. If the child is restricted and restrained, it will make him feel in a dilemma and create a feeling of neglect, making him rely on “foreign aid” for everything. This vicious cycle is more difficult to correct than mental and physical developmental disorders. “Interest is the best teacher”. Children like others to see their “successful works”. Parents should encourage their children to do things they are interested in as masters, and respond to their children’s initiative requests in a timely and friendly manner. Don’t be ambiguous, let alone reject him directly and rudely. If the request is really inappropriate, you can guide him appropriately.
