Dictations: Fanny, 28, employee of a foreign company Record: Before my wedding in July, I was always told that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were difficult to reconcile and I was glad I didn’t have to face such a complicated situation.
Peter and I are from the south and the north, but we settled down in Shanghai and bought a house.
Only on holidays can I get a chance to spend time with my in-laws.
Peter: I have a brother who works in the local tax bureau. He has a wife and children. His mother-in-law is very happy to take care of their grandchildren.
Originally, it was completely impossible to have intersection of life.
Early the next morning, my mother-in-law went to the mouth of the lane to buy me breakfast, which moved me to tears.
I went to school with Peter. He’s three years older than me.
Peter works as a network support in a foreign company. He is diligent and eager, and he is very attentive to me.
About a year into our relationship, I called my mom and told her about Peter’s family. By then, we were ready to get our marriage license.
To my surprise, my mother, who has never asked me much about my love life, immediately objected when I told her that they lived in N City.
The reason is, the mothers-in-law in that part of town are hard to get.
I talked my mother out of it.
I said that Peter planned to buy a house in Shanghai, and our jobs were both very stable. I didn’t need to follow him to his hometown for development.
As for Peter’s parents, they have always been with their eldest son.
At that time, Peter’s sister-in-law had just given birth to a baby and another son. Her mother-in-law was very doting with her. She was not willing to let her go to Shanghai, even for a short trip.
Mother-in-law is one of those strong women, said to be from a good family, can speak English and Japanese, early in the middle school teaching.
Therefore, I always think she is a sensible old man.
I remember the first time I visited Peter’s house. The next morning, my mother-in-law went to the front of the alley to buy me breakfast. I was almost moved to tears.
And I’ve always been grateful to God for this wonderful marriage.
The next year, I got pregnant by accident.
It was also a low point in my career. I had to leave my job.
Peter and I decided to give up looking for a job and have the baby first.
In this way, I gave birth to a lovely girl baby.
Everything in puerpera needs to be taken care of. Peter hired a matron for me. The monthly expenses of more than three thousand are not small.
Over the years, he has always been very kind to me, and I have always been grateful to God for this wonderful marriage.
Due to the high price of Yuesao, after two months of hiring, we discussed a new live-in nanny.
By then, I was already looking around for a job.
I always wanted to get back into society. I had been idle at home for too long, and I also wanted to make more money.
I was successfully recruited by a foreign company.
I was happy to be reborn, but on the other hand, I was worried that there had been several live-in nannies, none of which satisfied me.
When I was worried about this, Peter suggested that his mother come and help me.
The only condition for a mother-in-law to help with the children is to let her stay with us for a period of time.
I have considered the strategy of relying on the older generation, but my mother is in poor health, and she was operated on and hospitalized a while ago. Peter’s mother can’t live without her grandson.
But since he said so himself, I went along with it.
The old lady’s voice sounded limp from a long distance call.
A week before the birth, my mother-in-law came to Shanghai to take care of me and didn’t leave until after the baby was born.
I don’t know if it’s me, but I always think she’s unhappy because I didn’t help her have a second grandchild.
She liked boys, and the old lady gave various excuses.
Peter: Well, my mother’s not happy about it.
However, WHEN WE PREPARE TO INTERVIEW THE NTH LIVE HOME NANNY, THE MOTHER-IN-LAW MADE A TELEPHONE CALL AND SAID THAT THE NEXT DAY EARLY DEPARTURE TO Shanghai, LET US GO TO THE BUS station to meet.
Peter’s sister, my sister-in-law, had a change of heart and lost control of her mood.
Of course, the mother couldn’t put down the heart, heard the news immediately came.
My sister-in-law also works in Shanghai, but we do not communicate with each other frequently. She is two years older than Peter and still hasn’t got married.
Living with a Shanghai man for five years, no contact with family and friends.
Unfortunately, the man saw someone else and dumped her.
Mother-in-law agreed to help take the child’s only incidental condition, is to let the sister-in-law in our home for a period of time, calm down.
I am not unreasonable woman, not to mention sister-in-law is not a foreigner, help this help is should.
So, I readily agreed.
I am, at best, half my own man.
Our HOME IS THE HOUSE OF TWO ROOMS ONE HALL ORIGINALLY, DECORATE TIME ALSO RESERVED A GUEST TO LIE, INTEND THE PARENTS OF BOTH SIDES ORIGINALLY TO BE ABLE TO BE SOME MORE CONVENIENT.
That night I cleaned up the house and made a new bed.
At the beginning of the pour also nothing, sister-in-law to work during the day, with us about the time to get off work, mother-in-law in the home with the children, and so we returned home, she has done the meal waiting for us.
Of course, the money to buy food is my mother-in-law, for her mother-in-law to buy what food, I never ask.
I actually do not like to eat hoof Bang, but sister-in-law like, mother-in-law will buy every once in a while.
I think it’s okay. Mothers are always more honest with their daughters, and I’m only half one of them.
In Shanghai, son preference is less common, and I didn’t think much of my mother-in-law’s decision to go home immediately after my daughter was born.
But a week passed, I obviously found that the baby’s state is always very low, do not know whether the reason is hungry.
And strangely enough, my daughter seems happy when I hold her, but she always cries when my mother-in-law holds her.
When I told Peter about my concerns, he accused me of being overhearted. He said that his mother had come all this way, but was being questioned. He said that I was heartless.
He spoke strongly to me for the first time in my memory since we met.
I’m becoming more and more of a loner in this family.
After that, my mother-in-law and I would quarrel from time to time.
Maybe it is also my own reason. At the beginning of a new job, I always face a lot of difficulties and my mood will become very irritable.
A LOT OF LIVING HABITS OF SISTERHOOD LET ME STAND GRADUALLY, FOR EXAMPLE, WHEN SHE GOES UP LARGE BOTH DO NOT OPEN EXHAUST FAN DO NOT OPEN WINDOW AGAIN, UNDERWEAR 3 OR 4 DAYS GENIUS WASH ONCE, PILE IN TOILET, I STILL DISCOVER HER SECRETLY USE MY SKIN TO PROTECT SKIN.
I have told Peter many times about these complaints, but he just shrugged them off and thought I was petty.
I’m becoming more and more of a loner in this family.
Every day I wanted to send the mother and daughter home and continue to find a suitable live-in nanny or, if I had to, take care of the baby myself.
Peter: I have no right to give orders.
That night, I woke up at 12 o ‘clock to the sound of my baby crying.
He got up to see what was going on and opened the door to find the kitchen light on.
Approached a look, the mother-in-law actually secretly in helping sister-in-law stew supplements!
I am very angry, you spend my money with my water, electricity and coal are not the matter, but why the baby is crying, when the grandmother is so indifferent?
I rushed into the bedroom and woke Peter up, oblivious to what was about to happen.
Peter and I got into a fight. I don’t remember who started it, but it was chaotic.
I cried for his mother and his sister to get out, and he slapped me.
My mother-in-law said viciously that I “deserved it” and that I was not in charge of the family.
The baby was crying her head off, and the sister-in-law was lying in bed, silent.
At that moment, I wanted to run into a wall.
