What’s the secret to talking to women?
Why is it that some men are always able to talk and laugh with women, while others can’t get them excited or even know what to say?
Yes, many men do need to work on the “speaking” part.
It has been observed that some people, though not naturally optimal, are better able to capture a woman’s heart through their verbal skills.
I’m sure you’ve seen something similar happen.
The French philosopher Voltaire said, “Give me ten minutes, and I can convince any woman with my mouth.”
Of course, we can’t tell how much bragging is involved, but we can hazard a guess that men’s mouths seem to have a lot of potential.
The question is, what is it about talking men?
Do you know astronomy above and geography below?
Is it sweet talk or cajoling?
Is this some kind of crazy, funny line?
Or is it better to be a “loyal listener,” offering comfort and encouragement anywhere?
The three basic skills of a good conversationalist are: * Listen * Ask * Tell a story First of all, you must learn to “listen”.
Women hate men who talk a lot, inflate their ego, interrupt others, and talk about themselves all the time.
Because to a woman, it’s either a sign of insecurity or, “What are you trying to prove?”
New age women are smart.
They watch and listen too much, and most of them know what you say and where to discount it says about who you are.
After all, many women have developed their own rules for assessing a man’s authenticity.
Successful communication is a two-way street.
Especially when a woman speaks, you’d better open your ears and listen.
Women willing to speak to you may not mean that you like you, but at least you have let her produce preliminary “trust”.
When attraction between a man and a woman is based on a platform of trust, the relationship is solid.
Of course, one of the main purposes of listening is to gather information.
You can learn directly from a woman what she desires, dislikes, cares about, and her attitudes and values.
So how do we do that?
The key is to use open-ended questions to get the woman talking.
For example, there are moments of sudden seriousness: “What do you find the most challenging about your job?”
“Or” What do you think is the most important thing in a relationship?
“Or” I want to know your view on life. What do you think people should pursue in life?
This is the ability to ask questions.
You see, successful presenters are good at asking questions.
I know these questions may seem serious at first, but if you approach them in the right context, they can have surprising effects.
In addition to gathering information, asking questions is also a key skill to create and continue a conversation.
Many men worry about running out of things to talk about. The solution is to use “questions” to guide the conversation, along with keen observation.
For example, if you see a girl carrying a cute bag, you can naturally point to it and ask, “Where did you get that?”
When she replies that it was a prize marked in an online auction, you can dive into the subject of “the Internet,” from auction fun to online relationships, and the list goes on and on.
Then again, I think the topic of conversation is secondary, the real key is “atmosphere”.
Most of the time, I don’t deliberately limit the topic, because I want to create a very simple atmosphere, is to make the girl feel comfortable talking to me, very unpressured.
But it’s not just the atmosphere that women want. They want to meet a man who inspires them.
In other words, if you can express your unique insight into a matter at the right time, or point out a subtle point that has not been noticed, and describe it in a sort of “storytelling” plot, you will make her thrill like never before.
Once, the author said to a girl who knew not long ago quite a thought-provoking thing.
I said: “The process of getting to know someone is like opening a gift [gesture to oneself], until it is naked in front of you, you never know what kind of surprise it will bring you.”
The principle behind this passage: 1) the author compares himself as a gift, implying that she knows me with expectation;
2) “Naked” these three words are very ambiguous, whether it is used as a simple adjective, or has a deeper meaning is unknown…
Of course, the ability to chat doesn’t come from nowhere.
Have you ever told a joke onstage?
Whether a joke is funny, in addition to the subject matter, is often the result of preparation.
Likewise, it is recommended that you gather material from your daily life to cultivate your awareness of the topics that will come to you naturally.
