Everyone dreams of their future house is grand, spectacular, expect their future to have a successful life.
So, we might as well think about, their future should be what?
With our wildest imagination, dream of what we can achieve with our lives and feel like our happiest and most successful lives should be like.
Where will each of us be in three years, five years?
What kind of work were we doing at that time?
Will you be promoted in your position?
Is it possible to double your salary?
Or are you running your own business?
Or are you exactly where you are now, unchanged?
Or, almost, were you fired from your current employer and you can’t find a job?
More than 60% of the professionals often complain about work: a survey shows that more than 60% of the workers say they complain 1-5 times a day, the specific proportion is 65.7%, and 4.8% of the workers say they complain more than 20 times a day.
Many workers believe that complaining itself is a kind of outlet, and does not have a negative impact on their long-term work and life status.
Excuse me, is complaining a kind of mental illness?
Is there a downside?
Answer: Complain is a kind of emotional expression of people or abreact channel, its generation has profound psychological factor: it is in the process that solves a problem, face difficulty or frustration, and the emotional bad reaction that produces;
Second, when certain needs and desires are suppressed and not satisfied, so as to complain as a channel of catharsis;
Three is suffering from a certain interpersonal relationship or workplace work on the heavy pressure, complaining becomes a way to relieve pressure;
Fourth, it is caused by personal bad emotions or pathological personality.
Complaints, if aired on others, often damage relationships.
If you complain to yourself, it will make you depressed, and in the long run, it may become a trigger for depression.
A philosopher once said: complain about the difficulties of the past, will lead to difficulties in the future.
So, complaining is a pathological emotional expression that can kill in the workplace.
Work: Know the rules Don’t complain Although the benefits of state-owned enterprises are good, Xiao Lin either complains about the incompetence of his leaders or the inability of his colleagues to cooperate with him.
He always felt that his “gold” had been buried, and he had no interest in doing anything. He had lost his passion for work.
Action: Complainers are called “workplace complainers” by netizens, and their root cause is maladjustment.
There are three main performance, one is not suitable for the post;
Second, workplace rules do not adapt;
Third, the ability does not adapt, produce inferiority.
If it is because the position is not suitable, such as allowing an introvert to do sales, it is advisable to apply for a change of position.
In fact, more people are unhappy because they don’t understand the rules of the workplace, both explicit and implicit.
The former refers to the company’s rules and regulations, etc., the latter is some unspoken rules of survival, etc., only understand, can make you like a duck to water.
Therefore, the easiest way to learn the unspoken rules is to consult an experienced employee or “life coach.”
Finally, if the ability is not enough to produce pressure, it can only seriously find the shortage, more charging.
In short, complaining is like a stinky piece of foot-binding. It solves nothing.
Instead of complaining, change quickly.
Family: Don’t give your kids a hard time “I’m driving myself crazy!”
Pan Yu complained, “My daughter is only 3 years old, and she is already making a scene!
Tell her to sleep to play with toys, tell her to eat fruit.
I just won’t listen to you!”
Solution: In the eyes of Chinese parents, it seems that obedient children are good children.
But why do children have to be told what to do?
In fact, children are not obedient, more is the reason of parents.
Skill is important in a family with children.
First, take multiple choice questions instead of true or false ones.
For example, “Do you eat grapes?” only have two choices, eat or not eat, which is easy to trigger reverse psychology.
And “What fruit do you have?
Watermelon, peaches, grapes or something else?”
This kind of open-ended questioning stimulates the child’s initiative.
Second, don’t be a “dean.”
To communicate with the child as an equal, let the child make their own decisions, from the side to give advice and reminders, rather than “hard” to force.
Third, don’t tolerate bad behavior.
Against the “principle” of things, parents to “fight” to the end.
For example, when a child tries to get a toy by rolling all over the floor, once satisfied, he knows it worked and will do it again.
Interpersonal: Diligent in communication but not keeping up with the Joneses Lao Liu works conscientiously, but his position has not been promoted.
He blamed all this on his lack of “flattery”. He not only never took the initiative to communicate with the leader, but also was full of hatred for everyone close to the leader, scolding in his heart: “Only flattery!”
Countermeasure: Often curse what, the heart may be the most care about what.
In fact, there is no need to “suck up” to the leader, but we must pay attention to the importance of communication.
Through communication, you can let the leadership see your ability, know your efforts and efforts.
In addition, colleague relationships are also a major source of stress in the workplace.
On the one hand, colleagues are in a competitive relationship;
On the other hand, we need cooperation and peace.
Therefore, it is important to find a balance and recognize your strengths and weaknesses.
Don’t blindly compare with others, but with their own than, sure of their own progress, will not be anxious for immediate gains and losses;
In addition, believe in the power of the collective, give colleagues basic trust, through cooperation with others, enjoy the fun of sharing.
