In modern society, independence is often seen as the highest form of maturity. People are told they should manage their emotions, rely only on themselves, and avoid depending on others. This idea is the foundation of a culture shaped by competition. It silently influences how we view ourselves and others.
A related belief is that people reach their full potential only when they compete. But in a world where everyone is focused on being the best, others are seen as rivals, not partners. And when we see someone as a threat, our bodies react with stress. We fall back on quick, instinctive responses driven by the primitive parts of our brain — the same brain functions that reptiles use to survive.
This part of the brain, often called the “Gut,” activates our fight-or-flight response. When it takes over, even small differences between people can feel dangerous. Stress hormones like adrenaline and testosterone flood the body, making it harder to trust, cooperate, or connect. Just as you wouldn’t approach a guard dog on alert, it becomes difficult to form strong relationships when someone’s emotional defenses are up.
But what if our survival — and our success — depended more on connection than competition?
In communities where relationships are central, people assume that working together is safe and natural. This kind of environment helps the brain develop stronger emotional regulation, allowing for deeper human connection.
One real-life example of this is “Diabeties,” a program designed by a local resident to help young diabetics. In this initiative, teens with diabetes pair up with a diabetic “best friend.” Every day, they text each other their blood sugar levels. The results have been promising. Teens who participate in Diabetes are more consistent in checking their levels and more responsible in managing their condition.
The reason? Accountability and connection. When teens support one another, they are healthier, not by standing alone, but by standing together.
This story highlights a powerful truth: cooperation calms the emotional brain and opens the door for logical thinking. We are at our best not when we compete, but when we collaborate.
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