In the face of other people’s anger, do you always want to apologize, even if you don’t think you have done anything wrong? Do you always meet other people’s needs, but not good at taking care of yourself? Are you always very concerned about how you look and how you look Do you think that is the only way to attract others? If others compliment you, you will feel very uncomfortable, or even refute them? Is it difficult for you to express conflicting views with the other party in communication? Once the other party criticizes your ideas, Are you compromising involuntarily? If you find yourself fitting the description above, then you have low self-esteem.
When a person has low self-esteem, he is prone to fall into depression, and low self-esteem has a typical internal connection with depressive tendencies. Self-esteem represents how we view ourselves, including positive and negative self-evaluations. Good self-esteem is an authentic, positive self-concept. It reflects respect for oneself and a sense of self-worth that is not easily changed by others. Self-acceptance is a deeper level of self-esteem, being able to experience that you are good enough to stop striving for perfection. Self-accepting people feel valuable and lovable, not because of beauty, talent, achievement, intelligence, status, or fame, but because of a heartfelt satisfaction. Each of us has our own inherent value, which is not changed by our behavior. Even a baby or a small animal that can only be taken care of by others has its own unique value and place to be loved. Sadly, some of us live in an environment where love is lacking, or in their perception, love is conditional and must be earned through certain actions. If at an early age, parents or teachers often threaten unloving and demand that children do things they expect, then children are often in fear of losing love. They are contradictory and confused about pursuing the affirmation and love of others, and it is difficult to accept love calmly, and it is difficult to reject unpleasant love. In relationships, they often go overboard to make sure they are needed and loved. But in the end, there is often burnout and a feeling of being used or disrespected.
10 Habits That Destroy Our Self-Esteem You may notice that self-esteem plays an important role in relationships, relationships, and the enjoyment of life. The following 10 habits are often found in depressed people, and they can destroy our sense of self-esteem, which can lead to insecurity, anxiety, depression and even a vicious cycle.
- Negatively comparing yourself to others
- When encountering problems, they tend to blame themselves for not being good enough
- Push yourself with “I should have done it”
- Project your own criticism on others, thinking that others will also judge you
- Always doubt your intuition and decisions
- Procrastination
- Fear of failure and reluctance to face big life changes
- Ignore your own needs and expectations
- Allowing others to interfere in one’s life or invade one’s space without a bottom line
- Can’t forgive yourself
When a person compares himself with others, no matter the outcome, he is measuring himself by an external standard. When we feel that we are inferior to others, if we actively look for the direction of our efforts and become a kind of motivation and motivation, it may produce better results. And negative self-denial will produce a certain sense of shame, deepen self-esteem, become dislike of oneself, and become depressed. Habitual self-criticism interferes with our proper view of ourselves. When facing others, they also assume in their minds that they are not good enough, show anxiety, control and ingratiating tendencies, and thus tire each other out or create conflicts in the relationship. People with low self-esteem are afraid of making mistakes, and their mistakes are always unforgivable, so they try to maintain their original life trajectory and surface calm, even if they need to make incredible sacrifices and concessions. They often struggle alone, feeling that there is no support from others behind them, and there is no easy moment in their hearts. Only the trumpet of victory can bring affirmation and people’s support. For too long, there was little room for them to focus on their needs and expectations, as if they never mattered. However, it is one’s own needs that allow a person to build self-esteem, recognizing the importance and value of one’s own independent personality, not the attachment of circumstances and others. In the face of those who have no sense of boundaries and do not know how to respect others, self-esteem makes people have the ability to resist, defend their own space and rights, and be able to distinguish whether they are patient out of politeness or give in without a bottom line. Persistently low self-esteem can make people suffer silently in the face of others’ aggression, humiliation, or harm, and even accept such evaluations.
