Approaching the young group of college students, it is not worrying to find that: with the increasing pressure of competition, some college students have a morbid “bad competition” mentality and behavior, which hurts themselves and brings harm to the society. There are certain negative effects, and the deep-seated social and psychological reasons reflected in it are worthy of reflection. Opportunistic competition psychology Some college girls have “married people”. They are looking for husbands while studying, so that they can get a higher starting point in life after graduation. Some even go in and out of various marriage agencies while they are in school. The phenomenon of college students “next to rich women” has also been on the rise. In addition to using “own resources”, it has been taken for granted by a considerable number of college students to participate in competition by means of going through the back door, trusting relationships, and giving gifts. Psychology experts pointed out that this kind of psychology of wanting to participate in competition by means of various improper means is mainly due to the immaturity of students’ psychology, lack of judgment on some bad habits in the society, and blind imitation. Just imagine, how can a person who has lost himself and lost his self-esteem be happy?
Jealous and competitive mentality Zhao, a student from a university in Chongqing, often tear up campus recruitment advertisements. He admitted: “No one but me deserves this part-time job, and even if I can’t do it, no one else can!” increasing day by day. Psychologists believe that jealousy is a negative psychology caused by fear of being inferior to others in the competition with others. Such people are extremely insecure in their hearts, afraid of others surpassing themselves, so they are sensitive and suspicious, and even go to extremes, often harming others and themselves. A student in a certain university has always been the first in the class, but he is always afraid of being surpassed by others. He often cuts off his classmates’ clothes, damages things, and rips off notes before exams, creating a terrifying atmosphere in the dormitory, so that students can’t Learn with peace of mind. Aggressive Competitive Psychology Some college students, especially the only child, appear conceited on the surface, but they are actually trying to hide their inner inferiority complex. Once they fail in the competition, they often put the blame on others, take revenge, and even cause harm to others. Zhou Mou, a graduate of a school in Zhejiang Province, was eliminated after registering for the district public civil servants examination, but he was eliminated because he failed the physical examination. He rushed into the personnel department responsible for the examination and stabbed the cadres present, resulting in one death and one serious injury. Tragedy.
Competitive psychology of self-mutilation Now many college students’ ideal is to become a company manager and an agency leader in the future, and obtain a higher social and economic status, but in reality it is difficult to realize it immediately. Some college students even committed suicide because of loss, hopelessness, despair. A graduate student of Chongqing University said: “I studied so hard, and finally climbed to the top of the ivory tower. In the eyes of others, I am the best, but I can’t find a satisfactory job!” Distorted ” Peak experiences” often lead to tragedies. A graduate student from a university in Chongqing heard that in recent years, business administration students were not ideal in finding a job, and the gap was too far from their own expectations. In addition, they were found to be ill and could not stand the comments of others, so they committed suicide by jumping off the building.
Experts remind: the growth experience of many college students has a serious imbalance in the social and learning dual education structure, which is the crux of the problem. From a young age, students are taught to be humble in social competition, and even consciously avoid all kinds of social competition, just like some children who have the idea of playing with their partners will be scolded by their parents and disappear without a trace; on the contrary Academically, children are required to get good grades and good grades. In this way, the students’ social competition psychology is very immature, but the learning competition psychology is very strong, resulting in a serious imbalance in the structure of students’ competition psychology. Discussing growth experiences with some students revealed that their parents had high expectations for them, but it became increasingly difficult to remain outstanding. If things go on like this, students will feel that they are not good enough. Even if the environment evaluates them highly, it is difficult to change the feeling of lack of self-confidence. Once suppressed for too long, it is easy to form a distorted competitive psychology. In addition, the current university education has the characteristics of “post-middle school era”, many students do not know how to improve interpersonal communication, endure setbacks and adaptability, which are necessary for the fierce social competition.
