In the family relationship, the marriage relationship is always the core. When the marriage relationship is harmonious, the parent-child relationship can be harmonious. To educate children, look at yourself first! The child seems to be separated from the parents and is an independent individual, but under the same roof, the inseparable relationship between the parents and the husband and wife will affect the growth and character of the child.
- Parents’ affection→Children’s character is healthy and cheerful. A family with loving parents and harmonious relationship between husband and wife can give children a good family environment. Such children will be more peaceful, cheerful, and not easily rough. Because the relationship between parents is very good, children will also have good feelings and yearning for marriage, and can have healthy heterosexuality.
- The relationship between parents is weak → the child is selfish and selfish. The parents are weak, and two people often rely on the child to communicate or maintain the family, which is what people often call a “child-centered” family. Too much attention or interference, the character will become willful and selfish.
- Strong mother and weak father → Boys are timid, inferior, and weak. Because the father is weak, the power is left to the mother. After the role of the family becomes more and more marginalized, the mother will become more and more powerful and even talkative. Children will always identify with the same-sex parent, daughters will identify with strong mothers, and over time will become strong daughters, and sons will become cowardly and inferior sons who have no responsibility.
- Parents divorce prematurely → children are indifferent and insecure. Many couples who are freed from unhappy marriages neglect the most important point, and it is the children who can never be freed from it. Their inner wounds are often lifelong, and their worries, insecurities, and fears may never be healed. Children living in divorced families are more prone to crime and psychological disorders such as anxiety, depression, hostility, revenge, and indifference.
- Parents love to blame each other → Children are sensitive, love to make excuses, and stubborn. Parents like to blame each other. Such a family environment will seriously affect the way of life of children. Especially when the husband and wife are arguing, it is easier to tell the child that the other is not. The impact on children is that they will not respect their parents in the future. One party attacks the other party, trying to make the child dissatisfied with the other party, and in the end, it only hurts the child.
- Parents love to fight → Children like violence and grumpy Parents quarrels are common and understandable to adults, but for children, the sky is falling, and his sense of security will be greatly affected. At the same time, the child will become violent, short-tempered, and yelling like a parent. A child’s growth is the result of the interaction between biological heredity and the environment. A poor environmental life will cause psychological trauma to the child, and some wounds will be difficult to heal for life. Dear parents, for the sake of the children, how husband and wife should get along is too important.
The real couple is not who conquers who, but who accommodates who! “Don’t conquer each other” is the most important question for couples. Conquest is something that often happens between husband and wife. Talking about who is right and who is wrong, discussing who has hurt who and who has gone too far, these are taboos. Good couples are always pretending to be stupid to each other; pretending to be blind is to protect their shortcomings; those who can protect their shortcomings are true love! There is no right or wrong in family affairs, only harmony can make everything prosperous! Home is a place to be fair, not a place to be reasonable.
