In the cases of relationship conflicts that I have accepted, the partner’s affair is very common. When many clients find the betrayal, they are completely unacceptable and feel like the sky is falling. Women, especially, want a divorce because they can’t accept reality, but it’s not easy. Considering children, parents and future life, the part of the brain that controls emotions is particularly sensitive, and it will call the police if you move a little. Many people can’t bear these years, and their marriage feelings have become corpses. Are you going to get a divorce? Can you still trust him? Isn’t it said that there is only the difference between zero and innumerable affairs? Many clients asked this question during the consultation. I thought! Every time I think about the lies he told, I can’t believe him. Sometimes, his expression wonders if I’m thinking about that woman again… For someone who is betrayed but doesn’t want to get a divorce, the choice itself is very hard, especially if you love each other, this hurt will be deep.
We think I love you, how can I betray me or how can I pay so much for my family, how can I treat me like this, but actually how to get in touch with him is unavoidable. Love flows at its best in a relationship, and demands for reciprocity are often frustrating. Affair pays attention to marital problems in a very extreme way, like a sword pierced in the heart, it must be faced. Do you want a divorce? It shouldn’t go on In fact, you don’t need any rationale or rumor, but ask your heart. Everyone has their own views on love. Maintaining the perfection on the surface is the most valuable, or yielding to love can continue. Derailment see each other’s feelings break down, do not want to get married, bravely leaving is also wisdom. But in reality the hardest part is making a choice. Because we don’t know our hearts very well, in many cases the visitor suffers from entanglement. I can’t deal with it reasonably, and I don’t know how to get out of the abyss. Continued self-talk is required at this point: What do I want? How can this be achieved? To sort out this part, first of all, we need to eliminate the emotional reaction of the soul, so many people come to discuss, the most important job is to stabilize their feelings first.
After your emotions are released, you can think rationally. If you can’t calm down for the time being, give yourself more time and don’t make an impulsive decision. After a comprehensive evaluation, if you want to continue, you must know that this is your own choice, not a charity to your partner. Also take responsibility for repairing the relationship and don’t wait for the other person’s performance. After a partner cheats, the most difficult thing is to restore trust. Understand that you have experienced such a thing, and it takes time to restore trust. Take control of your own feelings and look at others positively over constant doubt. These all form hints, which tend to push the other side further. Trust is the ability to restore trust in your partner. In essence, it is to build trust in yourself, believe that you are worthy of love, and believe that you can overcome difficulties. These are directly sublimated to trust in your partner. In order to better resolve the injury of betrayal, we cannot continue to think that we are a victim, that the other party betrayed us and lost ourselves.
In fact, this is just a bad result. It becomes increasingly difficult to be in this relationship without considering the reasons for this outcome. If you think that the other person is the fault of one person, it will cause unconscious inequality. That is, one person borrows money from another, and the imbalance gradually disappears in the two people’s feelings. Why is this so? That’s because the two are unconsciously no longer a husband and wife relationship, but a debt relationship. If you decide you don’t want to end your marriage, the most important step in repairing your relationship is not to insist that you are innocent, but also to actively take responsibility. See where you need to adjust and stop tangling with events. Only in this way can the other half resolve the sense and bring the two back to an equal position. Many people in the negotiation process, if they forgive, will they worry that the other party will become more crazy? If forgiveness means forgiveness or fear of loss, that kind of forgiveness really doesn’t work. What also needs to be clear here is that the relationship between the two parties in this incident is problematic, not the fault of one party, and there is no forgiveness and forgiveness. Only your choice and your truest will. It’s like on the way to get married, holding the hand of the lover, walking away from him, walking away, and being taken away directly. At this time, should you give up, blame, or look down and see that your hands have long since loosened? What to do next, it’s all about you.
