My husband is 20 years older than me. Many people ask, is your husband very rich?
Or is your husband very powerful?
I answer: Neither.
I grew up without a father, you know?
Not more.
He is just an ordinary civil servant, want to ask me what I see in him, now I can not answer.
My husband is our work unit, often deal with.
One time, I had a file sent to them by mistake.
Fortunately, he saw it and returned it to me in time.
I this person, nothing wrong, is careless, and just do things involving data.
Before LONG, THE NUMBER THAT SENDS THEIR UNIT IS WRONG AGAIN, THIS TIME BAD LUCK, THEIR UNIT LEADER ANGRY, RESULT, I WAS CRITICIZED SEVERELY BY THE LEADER, RETURN BUCKLE BONUS.
I secretly cried a, after he knew, comfort me to say: Xiaolan, quite delicate of a girl how so careless?
In the future, I will check what you hand over for you first.
That’s how we got to know each other.
I was alone in Wuhan, and it was nice to have someone who cared.
I don’t know whether I like him or depend on him. Anyway, we fell in love.
I was 26 when I got married, and after three years of talking to him, all in secret, I was old enough to want to get married.
As soon as the news came out, it caused a great uproar at work and home.
He’s long since divorced, but his son talked to me.
His son said, “My father has no money at all, and he is not talented at all. He even gave me the house when he divorced my mother. Do you think that the old husband and the young wife can last long?
You’re only a few years older than me, and we’re both embarrassed.
My mother fasted at home for several days. One of my colleagues also came to me and said: LAN, it was Wayan who didn’t care enough about your life before. How about Wayan introduce you to a young man?
In the face of these pressures, I often just sit there and cry.
When he saw this, he also said: Xiao LAN, when we first got together, I told you that I was not good enough for you.
If you really can’t stand it, let’s break up. I’m prepared.
His eyes were so pitiful that my heart softened.
Then I made up my mind.
That night, after work, I did not go home, but went to his house, a door, I took off my clothes to lie in his bed, said: today I live here.
He said, don’t do this, Orchid. You’re gonna regret it.
I said, will not regret, I don’t want to let me shake, also don’t want to let you shake, we give each other some confidence.
I really didn’t go home that night.
I remember the first time he came, my dad didn’t even look at us, and my mom was groaning in bed.
I SAY WITH MY MOTHER: ANYHOW UNRIPE RICE BOILED INTO COOKED RICE, I SO LATER ALSO HAVE NO MAN TO WANT, DON’T HEEL HIM HEEL WHO?
My mother, who had never beaten me before, slapped me in the face and said there would be no more daughter.
I think, such as time slowly past, relatives will gradually understand us.
So, we lived together for two years, and I was in my late 20s and couldn’t wait any longer.
So we got married without anyone’s blessing, and I thought sadly that he was the only family I had left.
Our marriage had just passed through the honeymoon period, and we began to have some disagreements, mainly some problems of living habits.
Before, I wishful thinking, he is bigger than me so much, should everything let me, later found that he does not let me, before the care and consideration do not know where to run, it is a completely different person.
For example, I love hygiene. Even in winter, I like to sleep with the air conditioning on and the Windows open a little.
He said old people can’t be exposed to the wind, and air conditioning is wasteful.
He said he was too old to spend money like this and needed to save for his old age.
Anyway, when I say something, he says ten things back.
Also, I don’t like cooking. We agreed before we got married that I would cook at most four times a week. The rest of the time I would eat in the work canteen or go out to eat.
But after marriage, he asked me to cook every day, saying that he was old, outside things expensive and unsanitary, his stomach can not stand.
I and he go to work, but also do so many housework, is a hundred on jins tired, but he is like a master at home.
I want to divorce, but want to, after such a big fold together, so fast for this small divorce, do not know how many people waiting to see jokes, so, I have been enduring.
You can bear small things, but you can’t bear other things.
I found him hooked on the Internet.
Every day when I get home, I chat online.
I say, did not expect you old still a net bug, have female net friend?
‘Of course,’ he said.
I didn’t care, hearing him speak frankly.
But one day, inadvertently looked at his chat records, found that the object of his chat is almost all women, and each other say some very disgusting words.
I confronted him and he said, just kidding, is it worth it?
I still come back to sleep every day, you are so young and beautiful, still afraid I go out to spend?
I thought he said it was shameless, it made me feel sick, and with all the previous conflicts, I decided to divorce.
He did not object, and said: Xiao LAN, I knew you and I would not last long, I do not care, whatever you.
And so, in early April of last year, we got our divorce papers.
At the end of April, I found out I was pregnant.
We lived together for two years, married for two years, I have not been pregnant, not that I don’t want to have a child, but my fallopian tubes have problems, pregnant.
I’ve tried all of them, but they didn’t work out.
Even the doctors said it was almost a miracle I got pregnant.
I thought sadly at the time that maybe it was providence that kept me from this man.
I went back and asked him to remarry me for the sake of the baby.
When I remarried, I thought, I will live for this child, as for him, can endure.
But sometimes it’s hard to hold back a knife.
When I was four months pregnant, I found a text message from a woman on my husband’s phone.
Said she missed him and wanted to meet him.
I was very angry, so I used my husband’s mobile phone to call the past, and asked the woman: How, want to meet my husband, where to meet, how, not about a good place?
The woman hung up the phone without saying anything.
I asked my husband, he said, is not to see net friends?
Only young people can meet their Internet friends, but not old people?
He also said, Xiao LAN, don’t be so angry, angry is not good for the child, you don’t want to.
When it came to children, I refrained, so while I was pregnant, I kept my nose out of his business and rented a house.
Unable to control his obsession, his daughter was born late last year.
When I SIT IN THE HOME MONTH SON, DISCOVER HUSBAND and A lot of net FRIEND HAVE CONTACT, MAJOR ALL BE WHEN I am pregnant acquaintance, on his address book THE telephone OF THE FEMALE net friend in thick and dense ORDER, SEND THAT KIND OF DISGUSTING tease short message to a few WOMEN at the same time, IT is simply a “flower infatuation”.
Once, the family phone rang in the middle of the night and I answered.
The other SIDE IS a woman, OPEN mouth say: YOU are his wife?
I’m telling you, I don’t even know who your husband is. Tell him to leave me alone.
I ask: do not know him, you will have his telephone?
The woman said: That’s not clear, let’s meet and talk about it in detail.
So I went to see this woman.
The woman humiliated me and said, You are so young and beautiful, how can you not control the old man in the family?
I said: What are you trying to say?
She said: Ask your husband to stop pestering me.
I was divorced doesn’t matter, but also don’t look at your old man, we are to the hotel to open a few times, that can how?
He also lied to me about separating from my wife and marrying me.
Besides, I’m not the only woman you’re married to.
Once IS MIDNIGHT, THE TELEPHONE IS CONNECTED, THERE IS a woman SCOLD: DO YOU HAVE mental ILLNESS, I SAID don’t want to contact with you, you give me every day send so many messages to HARass me.
Such a day, I really can’t stand, and want to divorce.
At this time, the family still opposed.
My sister said, at the beginning to get married is you, to leave the person is you, now a lot of men are outside the flower, you just turn a blind eye.
And how long does your husband have left?
Yes. Can you handle the baby on your own?
And I want to keep putting up with it, so that my child can live in at least a semblance of an intact family.
But when the child is older, how will she feel if she knows that she has a “nympho” father?
I really don’t know what to do.
Editor: Never take children as an excuse and endure marriage, two people do not love each other together, the details will be sensitive to the children feel, if later still said to the children “if it is not for you, I would have divorced” such words, to the children is a greater harm.
A person to take care of the children, although very hard, but not necessarily bad and a nominal husband together to take care of.
