To MARRY A MAN inferior to ONESELF is like FALLING into a sea of MISERY. A 38-year-old woman needs to be loved.
But after living with Zhang Feng, I found that the feeling of being loved became less and less, and I became more and more disappointed in the marriage.
It’s not easy for a woman to run a company. How I long for him to be more considerate when I get home.
But every time I came home, he either turned his back to me and kept playing games, chatting on QQ, or just picking quarrels with me…
Zhang Feng and I were introduced to each other.
At that time, he worked in a state-owned enterprise, although the salary was average, but very stable, and my family also had a good impression on him.
My mom says a crazy girl like me is good for a solid husband.
In love and marriage, Zhang Feng is always gentle and considerate.
But two years ago, Zhang lost his job when his company went bankrupt.
He also looked for a few jobs on and off, but was not satisfied with them, and then gave up looking altogether.
My company is doing well.
I thought, since the economy is still tolerable, he will not work, the child is in a critical period, if he can take care of the child, take care of the family, I can also put more energy on the career.
But to my disappointment, Zhang Feng not only did not take good care of his family, but also became more lazy.
He used to cook for me a lot, but now he doesn’t cook at all.
The child HAS ANYTHING to look for him, he waved and said: “Look for your mother!”
He often made sarcastic remarks about me, as if I had done something wrong to him while I was away.
The most chilling part is that three months ago I found out he was dating online.
When I pressed him about it, he said the girl was gentler than me.
I was so angry.
Several times I thought about divorce, but didn’t make the leap for the sake of my children.
Now, I often said to the side of those who have not married sisters, married must marry a capable man, at least he than their own capable, otherwise it is tantamount to falling into the sea of misery.
My own experience is a good illustration of this.
Give up is for the sake of self-esteem Kang Qiang male teacher 34 years old open email, my blood almost in an instant coagulation.
Is she, really is her, that once let me love unforgettable but had to give up the girl.
She said in the letter that she got my contact information from an old classmate.
She said that she had become a mother in May this year, life is very happy, she also wish me happiness.
Expectation, disappointment, regret, happiness…
In an instant, so many feelings came together that I finally deleted the email for good.
I am now the husband of a woman, the father of a four-year-old boy, life is very uneventful, this is happiness?
She was my first love.
When I graduated from senior high school, I successfully entered a university.
The first letter was not to his parents, but to her, and it was nothing more than a childish confession.
She wrote back that she was thinking only of getting into college.
I laughed at my absurdity, but then I received a second and a third letter from her.
She asked me about my college life and told me the helplessness of the third year. I answered every letter seriously.
She was finally admitted to a national key foreign language university.
I was surprised to get the news and felt the sky suddenly darkened.
Really, I thought the best she could do was get into an ordinary university.
She wrote excitedly that she was overachieving, but I heard the sound of her dream breaking.
“What a big library we have here!
“A famous writer came to our school to give a lecture.”
Her letters continued to pour in.
But little did she know that what she thought was good news was only making me feel worse.
I restrained myself from replying to her letter, and her letters eventually dwindled.
At the end of my sophomore year, I took another girl’s hand.
The girl from the village in Anhui, she didn’t have much good news to share with me, but she would look at me adoring.
When I was about to graduate from my senior year, I was on the move looking for a job. Without a diploma from a famous university, I could only make up for my incompetence with diligence.
One day, I just came back from the talent market, my roommate handed me a letter, and I was familiar with the beautiful font no longer.
“Can you come to Shanghai to find a job?
I will graduate next year, if all goes well, I should be able to work in a very good company.
Remember the first letter you ever wrote me…”
I was thrilled by the vague innuendo of the letter, but I was overwhelmed by the tide of pain and loss that followed.
Famous universities, famous enterprises…
Like her, she’s too far away from me.
The letter, eventually did not return.
Looking for a job, failing in love, falling in love again, getting married…
The day is like a wheel spinning forward, everything in the past is running away.
Until one day, I saw a sentence in a magazine, “A man cannot find a woman who admires him, he will not be happy;
Likewise, if a woman can’t find a man she admires, she won’t be happy.”
I saw myself. I was hiding from this reef.
Sometimes I wonder, if I had fallen in love with her, what would I be like now?
Can we finally come together?
Will you be happy?
I didn’t find the answer.
Be happy with your own happiness, let others talk about it!
My wife, Zhu Dan, and I went to college together. I studied computer science and she studied Chinese.
When I learned that we were in love, my roommates’ glasses fell off.
Zhu Dan is not only beautiful, but also very good grades, and has published two young adult novels.
In her senior year, she was accepted into graduate school without controversy.
I think it’s my skill to find a girlfriend like that, whatever flowers and cow shit.
The real difficulty came three years later when I was working for a book company as a netting designer for very low pay.
Our relationship has been steadily on the rise and we plan to get married when she finishes graduate school.
But Zhu Dan’s parents strongly objected.
There are three reasons, first, my family in a small town, my parents did not give me what family;
Second, I was an undergraduate, but Zhu Dan was a postgraduate.
Third, my talent is general, in her parents, can turn over the hope is not very big.
“A girl should marry a man who is better than herself, otherwise you will suffer forever, understand?”
Judan’s mother shouted at her, looking at me from head to toe with angry eyes.
During that period, Zhu Dan lost several kilograms.
On the one hand, she tried to persuade my parents, on the other hand, she was afraid that I would be wronged, and always comforted me.
It broke my heart to see her like that.
Her parents got my parents ‘number out of nowhere.
One day, my mother called me and advised me to think about it, saying that high branches are not easy to reach.
I dropped my mother’s phone for the first time.
I turned to look at Judan, who was looking at me with tears in her eyes.
I took her to my arms and said that we would live happily ever after, and that our opponents would regret their actions.
Zhu Dan nodded and wept in my arms.
We got married in 2003 under pressure from all sides.
Soon after their marriage, Zhu Dan had his first opportunity to study abroad.
She came back to discuss it with me. I said happily, “It’s a good chance. Of course I’ll take it.”
She heard moved to say, “husband you are very good!”
I SAY: “WIFE YOU ARE BETTER, REALLY GIVE ME CONSIDERABLE FACE.”
After returning from his study, Zhu Dan was even busier.
Of course, there were more and more opportunities, raises, promotions, four or five times more money than I did.
I always joke to my friends, “I’m so lucky in my life that I married a cash cow.”
One time, a buddy asked me quietly, “Fang Wei, how are you doing with your talented Zhu Dan?”
I smiled and said, “Fine!”
I know what this guy thinks, he thinks that in a home, the woman can do, the man’s soft rice is not delicious.
Actually, there’s nothing like that going on between me and Judan.
We both know that no matter who makes the most money, we do it for the family.
She’s busy with work, so I do more housework, and that’s fine.
Fast forward four years and our married life is still sweet.
My parents-in-law have already admitted that I am a son-in-law. They flatter their daughter that she is blessed and married a considerate husband.
In fact, to put it bluntly, what others say, how to think, are not important, as long as two people feel happy on the line, the other, let others say!
Han Pei female Vice president of an enterprise 36 years old I am often asked, how do you keep a good attitude when you are under so much pressure at work?
I will smile and answer: “All is my husband Qinge’s credit.”
I really think so.
I remember reading a sentence in a book that many things in life, such as career and money, are “0”, while marital happiness is “1”. Only on the premise of the existence of “1”, the more “0”, the more wealth will be.
Otherwise, no matter how many zeros a person has, they will still feel empty.
