Occasional lapses may be remedied by explanation, but if they happen a few times, you need to mentally review your problems.
In addition to learning to respect others, you should also learn to keep a proper distance in your interactions with colleagues, and be careful not to intrude on other people’s “territory” so as not to be perceived as boring.
1. Do you like to ask about other people’s privacy?
In a civilized environment, everyone should respect the privacy of others.
If you find yourself taking a keen interest in other people’s privacy, take a hard look.
Prying into other people’s privacy has always been regarded as an act of low personal quality and lack of cultivation.
In fact, there are many situations that happen unintentionally. For example, you occasionally find a strange behavior of a good friend, and tell others unintentionally, causing harm to the friend and losing the friendship between you.
Occasional lapses may be remedied by explanation, but if they happen a few times, you need to mentally review your problems.
In addition to learning to respect others, you should also learn to keep a proper distance in your interactions with colleagues, and be careful not to intrude on other people’s “territory” so as not to be perceived as boring.
2. Do you often work with emotions?
If you are constantly affected by unpleasant events at work, which can make you lose control of your emotions, you are making a big mistake.
If you see something or something you don’t like and make it obvious, it will only cause your colleagues to resent you.
Everyone has his own likes and dislikes. For the people or things he doesn’t like, try to learn to tolerate or keep silent.
Your own likes and dislikes are not necessarily in line with other people’s opinions. If you often make easy comments on others, you will also incur others’ dislike, which will make you have too many enemies and make your situation in the office more and more difficult.
If you learn to tolerate others, you will win their support and respect.
3. Do you deny co-workers access to your living space?
It’s a mistake to treat your co-workers only as work partners.
Do you have colleagues in your circle of friends?
If not, it’s time to review how you interact with your colleagues.
In fact, there are a lot of benefits in the communication with colleagues in life, such as outing together, taxi commuting together, shopping together to buy clothes, rent a house together and so on.
In this way, we can deepen our understanding of each other and promote happy cooperation in work. We can also benefit each other economically, take care of each other in life, share our achievements in work and help each other in difficulties.
Having colleagues as friends in life can help foster harmonious interpersonal relationships and have a beneficial effect on one’s own work.
4. Do you often borrow money from your colleagues?
It is important to manage the financial relationship between colleagues well.
Due to the usual gatherings together to play, there are a lot of economic exchanges, the best way is to go Dutch.
In the traditional communication, people are used to treat each other, generous people will suffer, and the people who keep their wallet very tight will be despised by everyone.
Now everyone is increasingly accepting that going Dutch, sharing the cost, doesn’t leave anyone out of pocket too much, and there’s no unhappiness about how much money you have to pay.
It is necessary to set financial boundaries with colleagues. It is okay to borrow money from colleagues in special circumstances, but remember to pay it back as soon as possible.
If you borrow money too often, people will think you are a person without a plan and will distrust you for how you behave.
Make it a rule not to owe anyone a dollar.
Of course, don’t be stuck in a rut. Don’t deliberately refuse to invite colleagues for something happy, and remember to say more congratulatory words.
There are many rules to follow in interpersonal communication. If you find that your behavior deviates from these rules seriously, you must not be stubborn. You must keep a good attitude, use the above techniques to reflect on yourself, and adjust your psychology and behavior with a positive attitude to avoid the tragedy like Wen Qi.
You should also learn to keep a proper distance and be careful not to intrude on other people’s “territory” so as not to be seen as boring.
5. Do you like to play tricks on others?
Backstabbing is abhorred by everyone, and it is also one of the most dangerous behaviors in the workplace.
The consequences of this behavior can range from being despised by colleagues to losing your job and even losing your reputation.
If you often hold the competitor ON the cause as “enemy”, “enemy” idea, try every means to destroy the other side, you have to review.
As a boss, absolutely do not want their subordinates to fight each other, they hope that everyone can play their own strengths, bring more benefits for themselves, and mutual exclusion will only make their own enterprises suffer losses.
Colleagues around the same hate those who like to gossip, playing dirty tricks, everyone wants to work with like-minded people, do not understand the equal competition and mutual respect, will lose the trust of everyone.
6. Do you often compromise with others?
In the relationship with colleagues, there is not only mutual support but also competitive elements.
Therefore, it is important to use acceptance and rejection properly.
A person who will only refuse others will lead to rejection, while a person who will only compromise with others will not only be considered as a good person who is not able to do his job, but also easy to be used by others, leading to serious consequences.
When you’re talking to someone you don’t know very well, do you worry that choosing the wrong topic of conversation will lead you into a long, awkward silence?
Here are some of the most foolproof topics you can use to avoid this situation:
Top of the list is the weather.
Weather and life are closely related, and of course it is a topic that people care about, even strangers can talk freely about.
But instead of saying “It’s raining today,” try “Did you leave early because it’s raining?”
Ask questions like this to form an interaction with the other person.
In second place is the most recent TV show.
Ask them what they watch on TV, find something in common with you, and explore it. You should have a great conversation.
In third place is someone they both know.
Whether it’s a friend or an idol, you can talk about it.
But be careful not to speak ill of others, lest you come across as a gossip.
