In today’s world, it’s rare to seek out silence. Our senses are constantly engaged with noise—music, podcasts, video games, and the hum of our devices. The absence of sound can often feel unnatural and uncomfortable, but is it possible that we’ve become so overstimulated by noise that we no longer know how to appreciate true silence?
I didn’t seek silence when I hiked up to the summit of a mountain overlooking Waimea Canyon, often called the “Grand Canyon of Hawaii.” At nearly 5,000 feet above sea level, I experienced a silence unlike any I had ever known. Below me, I could see the ocean waves crashing, but I couldn’t hear them. The only sound I could hear was my breath and the crunch of dirt beneath my feet. The absence of birds and wildlife at this altitude made the moment even more striking—everything was still and quiet.
As technology and constant connectivity shape our daily lives, escaping the noise is becoming increasingly difficult. Finding a place free from distractions like cellphones or the buzz of electronic devices requires effort, and many of us avoid it because of the discomfort silence can bring.
Psychological research shows that silence can be so unsettling for some people that they prefer to self-inflict electric shocks instead of sitting alone with their thoughts. In one study, participants were placed in a room for 15 minutes with no devices or distractions. Nearly two-thirds of men and a quarter of women chose to shock themselves to avoid the uncomfortable quiet. The study suggests that for many, being alone with their thoughts feels unbearable.
This reliance on constant external stimuli has become ingrained in our society. But embracing silence can be a powerful tool for self-awareness, growth, and peace. By allowing our thoughts and breathing to take center stage, we can learn to manage our internal chatter and grow more mindful. Silence, though difficult for some, can lead to a deeper, richer life.
Psychologist Rick Hanson, in his book Buddha’s Brain, suggests that paying attention to certain sounds, like the waves of the ocean or even silence itself, can enhance our sense of joy and calm. But for those new to the idea of silence, starting small is key.
When you’re ready, try taking time to appreciate the quiet. Relax into it, and let your thoughts come and go. If it feels overwhelming, take a break and return to it later. Even small moments of quiet can bring a sense of peace.
As I reflected on the stillness at the mountaintop, I realized that the experience could be recreated in simple ways—like turning off electronic devices for a short period, or using noise-canceling headphones to block out the noise. Just a few minutes of silence can transport us back to moments of peacefulness, helping us reconnect with the calm we often overlook in our busy lives.
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